Speak Up: What to Do if You Kissed Your Best Friend’s Boyfriend?

Are You Crossing a Line?

Hiedy from Indanloa, Iowa asks:

What should you do if your best friend kissed your boyfriend?

Carmen Responds:

Dear Hiedy,

Hm, this depends on all kinds of factors. Did he kiss her back? Did she just kiss him, or did they make out? Was it a joke and done in front of you, or behind your back and something you walked in on/saw by accident? If my best friend kissed my boyfriend, namely as in kissing him behind my back and him kissing her back, I’d probably give both of them a good piece of my mind, before breaking ties with her and him.

For me, trust is one of the top three traits I am looking for in friends and my partner. If I can’t trust you, I won’t have anything to do with you. Because in the end, you will only hurt me or break my heart. Any woman who makes a move on my man is out. A best friend would never do that; end of discussion.

“Real trust takes real time.” – Reed ext. 5105

Any guy who gives into, or makes a move on my friends is also out. That type of behavior is never acceptable to me. Friends of current boyfriends or exes of mine are always off limits and I expect the same from my friends.

The thing is that I simply will not engage with people who do not have the same core values than I do. These values include honesty, integrity, kindness, loyalty and trustworthiness.

So if the kiss was an innocent kind of thing, I’d move on. From your question, though, it sounds as if it wasn’t and if they went behind your back, gets rid of them. Anyone deserves better than a friend who makes a move on your guy and a guy who went along with it.

“To attain the love you want, be prepared to be, or work to become, the type of person you want to attract!” – Yemaya ext. 5143

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7 thoughts on “Speak Up: What to Do if You Kissed Your Best Friend’s Boyfriend?

  1. Paulina gonzalez

    We were playing spin the bottle and it landed on me and my good friends bf and I was unsure what to do but my other friends kept putting pressure on me and telling me to do it and then I did it and we both wiped off the kiss on our lips and well yeah but he didn’t know taht was cheating and neither did I we are really young and dumb and my friend that’s like a brother to me was there and he’s bestfriends with the boys gf he only didn’t tell her cuz he loves me and I’m like family to him but he keeps telling me that I need to tell her but I just can’t and i know it was so wrong now but i don’t know what to do please help

  2. bri

    well today at school i fell in love with my best friends bf and we ended up full on kissing i know that is worng but she dosent care if he sleept with someone else i dont have a strong heart to tell her and i dont think i every will i love him and i told him he dosnt mind he is my world and my half of heart when im with him i feel hole again what should i do im falling apart and dying inside of hidding the biggest lie eva

  3. Naughtyb

    Well kissing someone else boyfriend is just hurtful my bestfriend did the same to me when I was out of town with my dad sometimes you cant trust you besties with your man ladies its time to spy on your mans or your husbands

  4. Junior

    Dating is when you and the other person are going out to get to know each other. It’s the same thing as you are senieg someone . The two of you go out to dinner or a movie to just get to know one another better. When you start calling the other person your boyfriend/girlfriend then that means you know each other well enough to take things to the next level. Your relationship becomes more intimate.Now, in love means you have a very strong connection with a person. Every time you are with them you start feeling a chill or excitement overtaking your body. In love, like the word, is a strong feeling of emotion. It’s stronger then the feeling you get when you are around a family member. Loving somone is like another way of saying you care about that person. I Love my best friend a lot, but not the way I love my husband. I care about them both a lot, I don’t know what I would do if one of them ever got hurt. However, when it comes to sharing special moments of my life with someone, I enjoy sharing it with my husband. When it comes to my friend, we just sit there, laugh, and gossip. When it comes to my husband, we like to cuddle, hold each other, and be close. Hope this helps.

  5. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Amen, Carmen !!!
    Well said…..I agree with you on everything and, especially, hanging out with people with the same core values.
    And feel the same way as you…..if I can’t trust you, I don’t want, or need, to be around you. Trust is earned, break that trust, and I’m gone !


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