Relationship Closure

Sometimes we just don’t see how much of our head is still mucking about in a past relationship. The less you obsess about old relationships, the more room you have to think about new possibilities, spiritual coach and psychic Hern ext. 5239 advises.

“One eye-opening test to help you understand how all of this works, is to sit in your car and look into your rear view mirror,” Hern suggests. Consider that as you do this, you are looking back at the past. Then, without moving your eyes, note how much you can see out your front window (or at the future) at the same time? “My callers often experience an ‘aha! moment’ after this exercise,” Hern reports, “because you can only see the past. It helps people change their perspective — fast.”

“One caller, Jenny (not her real name), turned her love life around with just a little bit of psychic coaching,” Hern says. She called asking for help with her troubled relationship.

“Oh, boy, I never get any calls like this!” he remembers responding, prompting an immediate laugh from her.

“We’ve gone back and forth for two years,” she moaned.

“Did you really say that … ‘back and forth for two [entire] years,'” Hern said, getting another laugh from Jenny. He explained that if he can get callers to laugh, he can get right in there and see what’s happening. “Well, he’s not coming back, he continued. “I can’t pick up anything at all on this guy — it’s as if he doesn’t exist. He’s married!”

“He’s in the process of getting a divorce,” Jenny answered defensively.

“For two years?” he said, eliciting a giggle from her.

“Ok, Ok. I need closure. Will he call?” she implored.

“You don’t need him to get closure,” Hern assured Jenny, saying, “There are zero circumstances where you have to wait for this. Just move on. If it’s going to happen, it’s going to happen. Write him a letter, write down every awful word and thought you have — just don’t send it. Set fire to it and watch the smoke go up,” he described. This should help you release and let go.”

At this point Jenny was very intrigued with the reading.

“This habit of waiting for love, is manifesting itself on you physically, on your career, and your personal life,” Hern continued.

“Yeah, I’ve been kind of a loner. All of that’s correct, and I’m gaining weight … I’m so stressed, waiting and waiting for him to call.”

“Start meditating on getting closure, and you’ll see changes. Get away from the computer and get out in nature, or just get out,” he suggested before their call ended. “Just get out because you can, don’t do it just to try to meet someone.”

The next time Jenny called Hern, it was to tell him that she had attracted a new man right out of the blue. “I know he’s not the one, but it’s fun … Hey, what else can I do to keep feeling empowered? I want to be ready, when I do meet the one!”