What men love most about women isn’t what women love about themselves. It’s often unique to reach relationship such as something that women do that’s simple and loving.
It’s the Simple Things, Really
We women spend a lot of time on our make-up, our clothes, our hair, our nails, our weight, and so on—you get the picture. For the most part, we say we are doing it for our self-esteem and sense of self, and while that is most likely true, you may be among those women that also believe that it will help attract and keep “your man.” Over the years, I have learned from male callers that while these things are pleasing to look at, and that men do enjoy the physical attributes of their women, it’s not that new hairstyle, perfume, or lingerie that has him remembering you, long after the scent of your perfume has gone. It’s moments like the one below that make your man love you. If you don’t believe me, ask him, “What is it that you love most about me?” and then be ready to receive and not judge his answer.
About six months ago, I sat in on a panel of four men that were being interviewed by a group of women. One woman in the group asked each of the four men the same question, “What was it that you loved most about your woman?” Each man shared a little something. The story that really resonated with me was the story of a young man whose girlfriend used to wait at the door each day for him to come home from work. Every day she would be there to greet him, and he would sit in his car for a few brief moments and watch her quiet beauty as she smiled and waved hello to him from the doorway. He would then get out of the car, go to the door and kiss her hello. He never once told her how much that small gesture meant to him; however, he shared that it was one of the most endearing moments in his life. About a month before she left him, he noticed that she no longer came to the front door when he arrived home. He didn’t make the connection until she packed her things and moved out. He started to cry. He said that although it has been many years since this woman was in his life, this was the thing he loved most about her.
Perhaps the story resonated so much with me because it occurred to me that every time I come home from the supermarket, if my fifteen year old son was home, he would come to the garage door to greet me and see if I needed help carrying the groceries. I never asked him to come to the garage, nor to help me. He always did it of his own accord. I have learned to admire that quality in him and always thank him for coming to meet and greet me.
Imagine being that woman who gets to meet and be with a man that would appreciate her waiting at the door for him. I think it is a lovely and simple gesture of love. I think people often over look the “little” things in life that make love so meaningful and special. I have been learning that there is always a moment that brings love close and that makes love grow. Love can be found in a simple touch, a smile, a stroke on the shoulder, or even knowing when to speak or when not to speak. Love is intuitive.
I know that it doesn’t take much to be the woman who is able to greet her man at the door when he comes home from work.