Ever have a nightmare about an ex? We all have…but I’ve been noticing lately that a few of my friends still have nightmares about someone they haven’t been involved with in a while. They always feel that this phase should be over. Whether it’s been a couple of months or a couple of years, depending on the nature of your relationship and breakup, it’s possible to have nightmares years after — even when you’re happily moved on with someone else. Many of us still have childhood dreams, whether pleasant or not, so it’s not crazy to imagine that an adult relationship with someone could haunt your nights. In talking to my friends and dealing with this myself, I’ve realized a few things.
If you’re dreaming about an ex, it doesn’t mean you still want them or miss the relationship. If anything, it means you were greatly impacted in this relationship or breakup and you are still processing some of the damage.
It’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re getting over it too slowly or that there is something wrong with you. I know when the initial breakup happens, many of us have a hard time just functioning in our day-to-day lives. When the pain of a breakup hits, it can knock you down for a little bit…but that’s okay. Because soon enough, you will bounce back and resume your life. So sometimes having those nightmares is just your mind and body’s way or processing and healing when you have time. When you do have these nightmares, talk it out with a friend or psychic dream analyst. Just analyzing the dream may help you realize what is eating at you and how to move on from it. And let’s face it, learning what went wrong is how we figure out how to go in a different direction next time.
What many of us don’t expect is to find ourselves in love with someone new and still having nightmares about an ex. Don’t let it scare you, think of it as healing. Remind yourself, “It was a nightmare and you are now okay”, whether alone or in a new relationship. Sometimes, we just don’t have enough time in our days to get all the work done so instead of being scared by another nightmare, thank your body for helping you purge the bad energy.