It’s often assumed that women are the romantic gender—that they’re the ones who are truly looking for love, and that men are only looking for sex. It’s also assumed that admissions of love are often something that are almost forced out of men by women, and certainly hard-won. However, a new study suggests the opposite: that in fact, men are often the first to utter the momentous three words in relationships.
The Star reports:
Sometimes it comes out in a rush. Other times it becomes a game of chicken. Regardless, the first spoken “I love you” is a relationship milestone.
Josh Ackerman, a psychologist who teaches at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, set out to study these early declarations of devotion. According to his research, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 64 per cent of people think the woman in a relationship usually says “I love you” first.
“We are constantly bombarded by this idea that love is about women, in a sense,” Ackerman says. “Women are the more emotional ones, and men hide their feelings. But that doesn’t necessarily appear to be the case.”
When his team interviewed 205 straight men and women about their past and current relationships, they found men were more likely to have said “I love you” first.
What do you think—are women actually more afraid of love than men? And are men actually more sentimental at heart than women?