Why Can’t Love Be Simple?
Human emotions are messy. Kindergarteners seem to have them figured out, so why can’t we? We are complicated beings with frequently conflicting desires like security vs. excitement, selfishness vs. self-sacrifice, and competition vs. cooperation. Add to this mix the complexity within three or more different individuals in love and you’ve got a spicy gumbo, for sure.
In rare cases, an above-board three-way relationship works, and works well, for all participants. And, this is great, as long as everyone is happy, and everyone is getting the emotional fulfillment that they need. Even here though, sometimes two members of the trio eventually splinter off into a couple, as preferences emerge with time.
It’s truly very important to respect the boundaries of other people and their commitments and to remember that “karma flows.” Here as elsewhere however, sometimes the lines are not that clearly defined, even for those caught in a love triangle.
Haven’t We All Been There?
Let’s be honest, because relationships seldom begin and end in neat little packages of time and circumstance. They tend, for a while at least, to overlap one another, change and shift everything and everybody they touch, and cause all kinds of complexities and confusion. At the same time, they enrich our lives, and bring about the opportunity for lots of spiritual learning.
Additionally, relationships are affected by societal, economic, and cultural forces beyond our control. Wars, pandemics, economic extremes, and the constraints of time and space influence and control the outcome of relationships. Relationships change the world and the world changes relationships.
The Question is: Who Wins?
From the spiritual perspective: everyone, all the time! What’s truly best for one is ultimately best for all. Whether we realize it or not, we are always working cooperatively for the highest good of all that is, as our spiritual evolution unfolds.
We are infinite spiritual beings, but we have finite physical needs. This is where we tend to get territorial and need to know what we can expect from people we’ve invested a lot into.
Example: Janet loved Mark, and so did Laura. Mark loved both Janet and Laura. When the two women found out about each other, they both “hit the roof.”
After much discussion, tears, recrimination, and accusation, Laura realized that Mark was not the partner she was looking for, after all. Janet and Mark on the other hand were able to heal their relationship with the help of a couple’s counselor, and now it’s stronger than ever. It is much more adequately defined for them both as a result of the pressure exerted by an “outsider”.
Each of them is clearer than ever about how they will move forward towards deeper commitment. And, Laura has found someone new who she has come to see as her perfect partner for this lifetime, and has completely moved on.
The Choice in Love
So, would you rather have a partner who stays with you out of “self-sacrifice” or because they really want to? There is no “right” answer to this question. Arguably, the answer could be yes or no with equal validity. But here is something to consider:
We are not doing a favor to someone by taking up space in their life, when they could be free to find someone who is truly “into” them. Being selfish is never the best option.
Sometimes the impact of a love decision must take into consideration the feelings of children, or other family members, and those of your “rival” as well. This will tend to work out best for you, too, in the long run. Here, being selfless might actually work in favor of what you most want. It depends on the specifics of the situation.
The following Tarot spread will help you sort out your feelings in such situations.
Love Triangle Tarot Spread
This is a simple, but profound, four-card spread using only Major Arcana Tarot cards that will help you find clarity in a love triangle. Here’s how this one works, with an example spread:
Card One- You in the Situation
The Chariot- You’re driving forward with a lot of will power and you’re very clear of where you want to go when it comes to a relationship. You want things to move forward fast and you’re not liable to ask too many questions along the way. A lot of your decisions are driven by ego and a need to be in control. You feel that if you can just focus clearly enough on what you want to manifest you can bend this situation to what you want.
Card Two- Lover 1
The Sun- This interaction is full of energy, warm, and affectionate. It is optimistic and very public. Your friends think it is great, and you sense that you and this person will help each other succeed in the future. But, sometimes you search for something deeper and more nuanced in this relationship, and it simply isn’t there. So, enter Lover 2.
Card Three- Lover 2
The Hermit- This person doesn’t care at all about appearances, and couldn’t be paid to have their picture on your social media page. They are introspective, meditative, other-worldly, and wise. They spend most of their time at home and love quiet and seclusion. They are a great lover, sensitive and subtle. They don’t care about financial success and really just want to wander wherever their soul leads them. You find deep peace in their presence.
Card Four- Unknown person
The World- Hold tight, because what if it’s neither of the first two lovers who is your true soul mate? This card indicates that someone you haven’t yet met has more of what you really want than either of the first two. It pays to keep this in mind and stay open to what the Universe might be sending your way.
Let’s look deeper. Really study, think about, and feel each card for a while. What is each card saying to you about yourself, Lover 1, Lover 2, and a possible “new” future lover?
Which feels best to you now? How about tomorrow, and why? Which person promises, in a way you can believe, to give you more of what you want long term? Is a totally available, new, and totally right person just around the corner for you anyway?
These will lead you to your answer.
When All is Said and Done
Ask your angels and guides for help. They are constantly working to keep us happy, if we listen. They can see the long view of the situation. They can see how the spiritual growth of each person will play out in the future. Maybe, it’s not the right time to decide. That’s a decision, too. Ultimately, all will unfold for the greatest good for all involved.
Being in love is a life experience that everyone deserves. Whether you’re looking for your soulmate or wondering how to keep the romantic fires burning in your relationship, a love psychic can help. They want to see you happy and a psychic love reading is all you need to find or keep the love that is meant for you.
Find a love psychic or learn more about psychic love readings.
About California Psychics
California Psychics is the most trusted source of psychic readings. We have delivered over 6 million discreet and confidential psychic readings by phone since 1995. More than a prediction, we are your guide for life’s journey. Serenity, happiness, and success are just a phone call away. With over 400 psychics online to choose from, you’re sure to find the best psychics for you. Call one of our trusted and accurate psychics today! Confidential and secure, real psychics, accurate predictions, 100% guaranteed.