One of the questions I often answer for people is how and where they will meet their new love. Many of you don’t believe in “bar hopping,” and statistics show that bars aren’t a great place to find a long term relationship, especially if you’re over 28 years old. So where can you go? Well, the answer is in what I “see” in the futures I read!
This changes with the seasons. For the summer, I see many connections happening at parties, barbecues, and outside gatherings like company picnics. Try going with a friend to their family reunion or company baseball game. I have seen some “meetings” happening while somebody is out to a movie or a meal with friends, and runs into somebody new in the process. Then there are the ever-available classes, workshops, and training seminars! I even saw one couple finding each other at a sales meeting where they sell timeshares on the lake front!
The question usually comes back to: “What are you doing to get out there and be exposed to more people so that you can find a connection?” Many of you work a lot, or have busy lives, and just don’t have time for “open ended social events”… my advice is, “Make time.”
There are many online dating services, yet many seem to be overrun with inauthentic individuals using them as “fishing sites” instead of looking for a long term relationship. However, that is not to say that they’re all that way, or to say that it won’t work for some of you. My sister is married to her eHarmony love!
If you’re waiting for someone to come along and inspire you to “get over” someone, that just isn’t going to work. Your heart is already “connected” to someone – you don’t look into people’s eyes; you don’t go out, since you’re “sad” about being alone; you don’t put yourself in situations where it could be awkward for a moment (which is always how it starts); you look down, or away, instead of getting eye contact and encouraging that person to say: “Hello, my name is…”
What do you think – what’s the best way to find somebody new?