Is the One of Your Dreams Just Around the Corner?
They say lightning can strike anywhere, and when referring to couples and relationships, they couldn’t be more right. Bob Pothier, the Founder/CEO of Hapacus, a company that teaches people how to be happy, reminds us that successful relationships are often a game of numbers. The more people you meet, the better your chances are for finding someone special. And Bob would know, as he is one of our featured love stories.
Today, I have four tales of first love, entitled The Matchmaker Player, Siren Song of the Saw Lady, The Dance, and Love on the Line. These stories offer four important messages. One, love is not always convenient. Two, love knocks when you least expect it. Three, love can be found everywhere from a library to a phone call. And most importantly, always remain open and prepared, because you never know when it’s going to strike.
The Matchmaker Player
“In the summer of 1986 a friend of my [now] wife and I was trying to set us up. Neither of us was a fan of this common friend, so after getting his description, we passed on the idea of connecting. He was a player and had a very bad history with women. When he told me about Virginia (my wife), I figured he was trying to set me up with someone he would like. When he talked to Virginia, she thought he didn’t understand women, and therefore, would never understand what she wanted in a guy. Later, at a dance club, another friend pointed her out to me, and because I had the background on her, and now a nice visual, we ended up talking. Ten days after we were engaged, and six weeks after that we were married. We’ve been married for 25 years and are the best of friends. We now work and spend all kinds of time together. Despite the personal failings of our common friend, he did know who was best for us.”
– Bob Pothier, Founder & CEO of Hapacus
Siren Song of the Saw Lady
“I saw an ad for a song contest. Even though I was not a singer (the ‘saw lady’ was once an aspiring dancer), I went and sang the one song I knew all the lyrics to, and won the contest. What I won was a own one-woman-cabaret-show. Since I wasn’t a singer, I started going to the Lincoln Center Library for the Performing Arts in order to find songs for my show. One day the man whose job was to hand out sheet music at the library, ran after me and asked to see my library card. When I first noticed him behind the counter, I knew that I had never seen him before, yet I felt as if I already knew him. It was a peculiar feeling, but at that time I didn’t translate it as anything significant. I honestly thought it was some library business when he asked for my card. I wasn’t looking for a relationship, but today that man is my husband.”
– Natalia Paruz (a.k.a. Saw Lady), Professional Musician
“A few years ago my life hit rock bottom. My ex wife and mother of my children said she no longer wanted to be with me. I wanted to start over, so I moved from Alabama to Georgia. Mind you, I had limited money, no job, and no place to stay. A childhood friend said I could sleep on his floor until I could get back on my feet. It was my first Friday night in a new city, and my friend asked me to go out and dance. I refused at first, but I later realized I needed to get out for some air. I asked an attractive young lady named Kim to dance, and we grooved until the lights came on for us to go. We exchanged numbers. I never expected to meet someone so nice so quickly. An even crazier thing was that she lived 90 miles away. Since we first danced, we have been together for six years. We had the chance to dance at a birthday party two weeks ago—the chemistry is still there.”
– Derrick Hayes, Encouragement Speaker, Author of 1 WORD Is All It Takes
Love On the Line
“I met my significant other doing a radio interview over the phone. Having recently gone through a break-up, I was not looking to do anything but focus on my daughter as a single mother, and my work. It was the one year anniversary of 9/11, and I noticed a piece in the New York Times about a West Cornwall, CT artist (www.donaldbracken.com) who used to paint from a studio on the 91st floor of the World Trade Center. This was a perfect story for my 9/11 anniversary interview. I tracked him down in the phone book and left a message.
“He called me back and the interview lasted several hours. This voice on the other end of the line was sensitive, kind, intelligent. We began communicating regularly. He was in the throes of a relationship ending. I didn’t want to be the cause of someone else’s heartache. By the time we met, we had been communicating on a deep level with no cluttering of physical interaction. When he entered the restaurant—there was a halo around his head from a light in the entryway. I couldn’t see his face—It was like the elevator scene in Sleepless in Seattle. The sparks were incendiary. The mind had already made contact.”
— Marianne O’Hare, Publicity Expert