Get a Handle on Your Communication
Forget what you’ve heard about the importance of verbal communication. Patricia Love, Ed.D. and Steven Stosny, Ph.D., authors of How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, want you to know that if you feel like you’re getting nowhere with your partner, trying to force your way in isn’t going to work. There are many non-verbal ways to communicate that will help improve your relationship.
Too Much Diction Scares Us Blokes
Men avoid the talk because it makes them feel shameful (as a failure). Women like to talk, because it helps to resolve their anxieties about the relationship. In other words, never shall the two meet when it comes to pie hole communications. This is normal. Now that we got that out of the way, let’s move on to some non-verbal substitutes. Get personalized advice, contact a psychic today!
Pleasant, Non-Verbal Gestures are at the Root of All That is Not Evil
Think back at a time that you were really peeved because your partner gave you a hug, made you a batch of cookies, or took out the garbage. You may wonder about their motivation, but it is hard to be upset over a kind gesture. At the route of all physical connections, is love. Sometimes when we have hit a wall and think there is nothing left to say, you’re probably right. Allow a kind gesture to say it for you.
Connection Comes From Consistent, Small Gestures
Your right in thinking that your partner may not be in the mood for a hug (or cookies) during a fight. This is especially true if this is the only time that you become loving or giving. Connection is built with small gifts that are presented each day. Any couple can agree to sit at the breakfast table together, pull the weeds from the garden, or kiss good-bye. These are the little moments that build-up camaraderie, so that a future disagreement won’t threaten to take it away.
Every Coin Has Two Sides
Sometimes we are so focused on our own side of the coin; we forget that there are two sides. If you can’t cultivate compassion for your partner’s position, you’ll never find middle ground (compromise). Love and Stosny call this “binocular vision,” and it means maintaining your viewpoint, while also putting yourself in your partner’s shoes, so that you can understand theirs. There is usually a good explanation for why your partner is acting like a jerk. Give them the benefit of the doubt, and try to understand where they are coming from.
“Keep your partner happy by being happy yourself.” – Blythe ext. 5339
Get it On, to Get Along
When busy making love, it is hard not to get along. Intimacy creates a bond that words cannot describe. We may tell our partner that we love them every morning. However, by expressing that love with an impromptu session of lovemaking, we are adding a great big exclamation point to that (especially with men). Sex allows us to forget our differences, and concentrate on the one thing all humans have in common; the need for pleasure, happiness (laughing), and relaxation (release). The more your partner associates your relationship with physical pleasure, the better you’ll also connect, spiritually.
Remember Empathy? Well, Allow Me to Remind You
In the early days of your relationship, when your partner became distant, you were concerned, compassionate, and empathetic. As relationships mature, sometimes those feelings become fear and anger. This is because we don’t have as much at stake in new relationships, so we don’t take things as personally. Even though you may want to lash out at a partner who’s acting selfish; a better way is to give them your support with a hug. Just because your partner is angry, doesn’t mean it’s directed towards you.
“Whether you want a job, a house, a friend, a mate, lead with your strengths.” – Psychic Reed ext. 5105
Two Steps Forward, One Step Back
We always have three choices during an argument, according to Love and Stosny. We can avoid, attack, or approach our partner. By a show of grumpy faces, how many choose the first two options? You will enjoy a longer and happier relationship if you remain approachable no matter how your partner is acting. Sometimes a partner may seem to be trying to push your buttons. However, once they realize your fuse is doused with prune juice, you’ll maintain that feeling until they’re ready to tell you what’s bothering them.
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