Ghosting: Breaking Up by Going Completely Silent
Ghosting is a raw move: it’s when you break up with somebody by completely blocking them out, not returning their calls, not Facebooking… nothing. Have you been a victim to this?
Deccan Chronicle reports:
Forget a text message or a vague e-mail, this has to be the worst, and most humiliating way, one can break up — by ghosting. Ghosting is the act of disappearing, leaving a relationship and a person without as much as a “by your leave,” much like a ghost that would vanish into thin air. And it’s fast becoming a trend.
Apart from leaving you with closure, the betrayal is hard to take, says Shalini Kondepudi, an assistant director. She says, “The concept is so inhuman. How can someone just walk out of someone’s life like that? It screams betrayal. If such a thing happens, it’s better to just let them go. Strong relationships are built on trust and such things never happen in them.”
While most believe that ghosting is mean and cruel, there are those who believe otherwise. “It saves time and a lot of trouble,” says Hriday Ranjan, an aspiring writer, adding, “If you thought that the person was good enough to be with, you wouldn’t walk out like that. But once you’ve decided that it won’t work, walking out seem way better than confronting the person.” “I’ve been on the receiving end, at first you feel terrible about yourself, but with time it feels better. It all settles in,” he says.
And ghosting is not just limited to the “jerks.” People who otherwise seem to be perfectly capable of being in normal relationships suddenly disappear. Dr. G. Prasad Rao, director of Psychopharmacology, Asha Hospitals, says, “All these arise due to complications of modern day relationships. Besides, if a relationship lacks emotional depth and commitment, such things are bound to happen.” He adds, “There are always signs of an impending doom, no relationship can end that abruptly. People live in a denial mode and are blinded by it, that’s why they can’t see it coming.”
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