Are You Having an Emotional Affair?
Studies suggest it is lurking around the corner in over 50 percent of marriages, disguising itself as a simple “Hello, are you available to chat.” What makes this form of cheating different from sexual infidelity, is it allows a partner to suckle nectar from the apple, without plucking it from the tree. It offers the opportunity to create an emotional bond, without leaving the boundaries of the home. Worst of all, even though these partners may not be breaking any rules, they are suggesting a lack of interest in their primary partner, and this interest in someone different and new pushes them further away. If you suspect your partner is having an emotional affair, this article can help you understand what you are up against, and what your options are.
Every Ending Has a Beginning
Sexual infidelity begins with “Hello,” and ends with sex, lies, anger, tears, and finally, silence. A portion of these relationships can be traced back to emotional infidelity. Over 50 percent of affairs begin in the workplace, with evidence suggesting that online cheating may be overtaking the office as the springboard for most opportunities.
Like Moths to the Flame
Emotional infidelity can lead to a love addiction, which is more about the situation than the actual person. Suddenly a casual acquaintance becomes an obsession. This is because we build intimacy more quickly and easily online. It is easier to share your secrets, when you are not sharing physical space with the person you are talking to. It is also common to expand on a mystery person’s persona with traits we only hope they have (likes to travel, listens to Barry Manilow, etc.).
Even though these relationships are not being built on physical experience, this doesn’t make the emotions any less powerful. In other words, it is entirely possible to find yourself completely in love with an image and voice on your screen. Considering that much of your correspondence will be secretive, the risk associated with that person may also intensify emotions. If you combine risk with the inability to spend time with that person (absence makes the loins grow fonder), this potent mixture can drive feelings even closer to the brink of sexual infidelity. Call Psychic Joyce ext. 9598 if you are on the brink of an emotional affair!
The Difference Between Men and Women
Men and women experience emotional infidelity differently. As studies suggest, men feel less guilty, compared to physical cheating, and many see such a correspondence as harmless. Women, on the other hand, are more attuned to the emotional side of relationships, so investing themselves this way may be a sign of more involvement that her partner realizes. This, coupled with the fact that women are usually the gatekeepers responsible for moving a relationship from friendship to lover status, makes them more susceptible to believing the fantasy.
Is It Just a Fantasy?
Most partners engaged in emotional infidelity are not aware of the risks they are taking. The mere idea of maintaining an affair from across town, across states, or even across countries, has a built-in stop, which keeps any real cheating from happening. However, most affairs begin as a harmless fantasy, which then grows to an obsession.
Rejection Begets More Rejection
The nature of infidelity does not always begin with the desire for another person, but rather the need to feel loved and wanted by their existing partner. Unfortunately, we are the architects of our own experience, which means that we see what we want to. A lack of intimacy may be a source of many situations in life, such as work, or the death of a family member. How we choose to react to these can be the deciding factor between love and rejection.
Rather than approach our partner with our growing feelings of rejection, cheaters take the easy way out, and substitute these needs with the presence of a new love interest. In a deeper sense, these partners are rejecting their partner because they believe they have been forsaken, and fear they would only be rejected more if they opened up about their feelings. Feeling rejected by your partner? Psychic Hern ext. 5239 can tell you what’s going on.
Where to Draw the Line
Considering these friendships are not breaking any rules, many partners are left wondering where they should draw the line. The good news is that many partners end these relationships themselves. However, you should never ignore these red flags, as they are a distress call that your relationship is in trouble. Remember, in the beginning you still have the home-court advantage. There is a reason why your partner is in your life; they have not completely abandoned you. Open up to them. Ask them what is missing in the relationship that is urging them to look elsewhere for it.
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