Discussions Every Couple Should Have

Should You Plan a Future Together?

The most successful long-term relationships have great communication where couples can talk freely and honestly. Before becoming engaged and married, make sure you and your partner are in agreement about future plans. You don’t want to waste each other’s time when you really aren’t each other’s life partner.

Here is a list of important conversations every couple thinking about taking the next step should have:

Where to Live

Where do you want to live? Do you want to be close to family, friends, work or school? If you want to have children some day, would you raise them in the neighborhood you currently live in? If not, do you have a plan for moving to a more child-friendly place?

Get a Pet

Sharing the responsibility of caring for a pet in important if you’re pet people. Even if you both brought pets into the relationship, it is important to get a pet together that you are equally responsible for.

Divvy up the Chores

Who is going to do what? If you both work, expect the amount of chores each of you do to be about equal.

To Have or to Have Not: Babies

Do you both want children, and if so, how many and when? Will one of you stay home to raise them or will they be placed in daycare? Is adoption an option?

Money Matters

Will you have a joint savings and checking account or will you keep your money separate? Consider how much debt each of you has. Even if you’d prefer to keep your money separate, it’s a good idea to have at least one joint account. You can use it to pay household bills or save up for furniture, a trip or a new family car.

“Being honest with ourselves about our own relationship with money allows us to stand back and gain more clarity when it comes to money issues with our partner.” – Psychic Quinn ext. 5484

Meet the Parents 

Get to know each other’s families if you’re serious about a future together. Weed out the supportive relatives from the disapproving ones (if any) so you know exactly what you’ll be dealing with.

Disconnect With Exes

Delete emails, phone numbers, texts, photos and any social media connections to your exes. They are just liabilities that could complicate and even damage your relationship. Of course there are exceptions, but make sure your current lover is comfortable with it.

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Save for Your Golden Years

Start you retirement accounts and try to figure out when you will retire. Retire as close as possible to each other to maximize your time together.


Make sure you both have insurance and even doctors in the same office if possible. Attend appointment together or find another way to stay on top of each other’s health issues. Does someone need to quit smoking or lose weight? How will these issues be handled going forward and how will you both support each other?

Keep Dating Each Other 

Keep romance alive with date nights, love notes, anniversary celebrations and reminders of your future together.

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Plan Vacations

How often do you need to get away? Do you prefer a smaller trip every year or a big trip every few years? How do each of you like to spend your vacation time?

Plan a Wedding Together

What kind of wedding have you envisioned? Who is going to be there and more importantly, who is going to pay for it? Plan it together. Make as many decisions together as you can and always stick together when trouble brews with family and friends.


If you come from different faiths, how will you incorporate both of them into your home life?Will you practice together or apart? If you have children, how will they be raised?

These discussion are about compatibility and hopefully you’ve had them before you made a commitment to each other. I know many couples who waited until it was too late to have these discussions. They didn’t realize they were incompatible until they had already committed to each other.

If you love someone, find out everything about them. Ask questions—even the ones that make you nervous. You think you may know the answers already, but a discussion with your partner may tell your otherwise. You don’t have to have these conversations all at once. I suggest sprinkling them throughout your relationship and then checking in again from time to time to see if the answers change. It’s always better to find out sooner rather than later.

Good luck on your romantic journey!

3 thoughts on “Discussions Every Couple Should Have

  1. Seren ext. 5445Seren, Ext 5445

    Great article!

    I would also add that partners in a relationship be prepared to believe the answers given by their significant others when discussing these crucial subjects.

    If someone states that s/he never wants children and you do, believe that they are speaking the truth rather than just dismissing it with a, “Oh, I know s/he will change her or his mind later on.”

    Yes, it is possible that they may, but it is equally possible that they will not.

    Ask yourself if you are prepared to adjust your own desires in order to have this particular relationship… and be dead HONEST with yourself.

    If you find that the matter is one on which you can sincerely compromise without lingering resentment or feeling the sacrifice has been too great, then go for it.

    If, however, honest reflection reveals that the subject is one that you absolutely cannot live with/without, it is time to consider letting go of the current relationship so that you can meet someone who truly does meet your absolute needs or desires.

    Brightest blessings,

  2. Susan I. Sheehan

    Wow! My partner and I are planning on reconciling after a separation of close to nine months! I am so happy to have this article, and plan to go over it with her. Thank you so much for this, as there are many important points and aspects which we will need to agree on.

  3. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Great article, Melody….I especially liked the part that says to keep dating each other !!!!


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