Despite our multifaceted natures, most of us tend to keep part of ourselves under wraps until we know our mate very well, and have developed a solid comfort zone with them. When a relationship is a little older, we can afford to take more risks: acting silly, singing out loud, breaking into dance, and so forth, possibly to the great delight of our partner. Let’s look at a few ideas for spicing up our love life.
1. Learn Something New Together
A great way to experience rejuvenation in our lives is to learn something new. When we undertake this new endeavor with our partner, we experience and enjoy a different side of ourselves, and then, as we tap into different parts of our personalities, we begin to come up with new ideas. Some ideas for introducing a new skill or hobby in our relationship might include sailing, dance lessons, cooking classes, and art classes. No matter what the venture, inviting new activities into our relationships will surely shake things up in a good way.
2. Go On a “First Date” Together
Remember what it’s like when we first start dating someone? The newness, excitement and the uncertainty? Try to recall those early days when we dressed to impress and seduced our love interest, where a heated look across the table or a stolen kiss in the night excited us. We can get so comfortable with our significant other, our “sure thing,” that we cheat ourselves and our relationship out of some great times, taking each other for granted. If we could just get back to that “courtship” behavior, new excitement could be injected back into the relationship. So taking each other out on a “first date night” once in awhile can reintroduce new interest and passion into the relationship.
3. Show Appreciation
It’s easy to take our partner and our relationship for granted. We forget to cherish the very things that made us fall in love with that person. Just displaying appreciation for the things our significant other does each day that make our lives easier and more fulfilling will restore a measure of life and happiness back into the partnership. Remembering to tell them we love them and thanking them for all the little things they do is another way to accomplish this.
4. Share Each Other’s Fantasies
With just a little creativity and fun we can easily revitalize our sexual relationship. Couples often find that their sex life can lose some of its luster as they become more committed to one another. The stresses of everyday life can also add to lessening passions. We tend to find a comfort level with our partner in the bedroom and rarely venture outside of that zone. But it is that very comfort zone that we have achieved that can make the environment safe for us to explore. Opening up conversation with our partner about our fantasies can lead to interesting and exciting bedroom explorations as well as introduce new passion and romance into the relationship.
5. Spice Up the Social Calendar
We can create very predictable schedules in our partnership that can make our time together seem stale or monotonous. Finding new and interesting activities to enjoy during our couple time can open up new worlds to explore. Social events such as wine tastings, picnics, art shows, the opera and the symphony are just a few examples of how we can creatively expand the time we share with our partner.
6. Try Role Reversal
Every relationship requires some give and take, and in our everyday patterns, we inevitably lean towards taking on certain responsibilities and roles with our partner. Maybe one of us cooks dinner and plans the social outings for the week, while the other tidies up the house or runs the weekly errands. However the responsibilities are divvied up, we can try swapping some of these things out and seeing what happens. This will help us appreciate what our significant other does for us, and can get us out of whatever familiar rut we may have carved out for ourselves in our partnership. Who knows, maybe we’ll enjoy some of our new activities, leading to a happier and more fulfilling relationship!
What are your own favorite ways to spice up a relationship?