So when I was in my twenties I mostly dated men in their twenties. Well now I’m in my thirties and not much has changed. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not an ageist, I have dated men my age and older but I seem to attract and enjoy the company of a younger man. I joke that I’m keeping with the times and following a trend but really it’s not by choice that I’ve recently fallen for a certain younger guy.
This gentleman has an old soul and a young spirit, just like me, so really it’s going very well. Of course at times, we both are aware of the age gap but it’s not like one of us grew up with dinosaurs!
The thing that always gets me is that when a man is older than a woman by ten years or so, no one makes a big stink. It’s all fine and daddy…I mean dandy…but when a woman finds herself with a younger man, it’s about cougars and tigers and bears oh my! But seriously, I see the traditional thought that would cause people to shake their head in dismay but times are different. Women and men are different. I mean we don’t live in caves anymore so why should our hearts or brains?
There’s the “boy toy” school of thought, the “sugar momma” doctrines but then there’s Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins as well as Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, not to mention Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon. True love can exist it seems between an older woman and a younger man just as it has between older men and younger women for centuries. It does for me. I would even bet that this cougar phenomenon is not so new and maybe it’s just a little more acceptable now. In fact, I know of a few marriages where the woman just plain lied about her age! I don’t want to lie and I don’t want to feel like I’m fighting some revolution or going with a trend. I just want to love the person I want to love without judgment simply based in age. I’m curious how many people really take issue with these kind of non traditional relationships. Has anyone out there made this kind of relationship work? Have you had to deal with friends or family giving you a hard time? For the record….I prefer being called a puma to a cougar.