While advice passed down through wisdom and experience is frequently valuable, it should not blind you. In response to the rapidly changing times and countless relationship dynamics, marriage rules that once were held sacred and inviolable may need to be rewritten and revised. Let’s look at a few marriage rules that partners might be better off breaking:
1. Be involved in every aspect of one another’s lives
While sharing parts of your life with your partner is an integral part of a healthy relationship, there is no need to spend every waking minute together. Allow one another the necessary space to grow, change, and improve as an individual. The unique experiences you have outside of and distinct from your romantic relationship will be something interesting and stimulating to share with your partner at the end of the day. It is a sign of love and trust when you can allow your mate the freedom to foster his or her distinct personality and interests.
2. Without passion the marriage is doomed
Relationships change and deepen with love and experience as the transcendental tools. Passion, especially in the bedroom, can wane over the years as what once was new becomes familiar. As your relationship strengthens and grows, you may find you feel passionate about your partner, and the life you have built together, in ways that are not necessarily sexual. Remaining close, enjoying experiences together, and supporting one another through the good times and the bad will keep the passion of your love at a delightfully slow and steady burn.
3. Always put the children first
Children require a great deal of love, nurturing and support in order to develop into healthy adults. As a parental team, it is easy to lose focus on your relationship as you delve deeply into parenthood and all the responsibility it entails. However, it is essential that you consider your relationship a top priority, making daily efforts to enrich your special connection, not only to secure your happiness as a couple but also for that of your children. Parents, as the pillars of strength for their children, must foster a deep marital love and comfortable relationship, lest the entire family suffer.
4. It’s a fallacy to think you can change anyone, so don’t bother trying
While people generally don’t change their core selves and beliefs, humans can and do change aspects of their behavior if they truly want to. The key point here is that they must want to change. It’s imperative that you love your partner, first and foremost, faults and all. Any shortcomings that one of you might like to eradicate in the other or attempt to improve upon must never be tossed out as an ultimatum, but rather the partner needing to change must want to do so out of their love for their spouse and their desire to be a better person. After all, as one poetic soul put it, “if nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.”