The Difference Between Sex and Making Love
Have you ever heard the saying “Women need to feel love to have sex and men need to have sex to feel love?” There is some scientific evidence to prove this might be right. So as a woman, how do you get what you need without giving everything away? These three tips can help you see the situation for what it really is and get what you really want.
1. Know Your Motives
When it comes to sex, studies have shown that women tend to be influenced by what’s going on during their day, mood and the conversations she had throughout the day. As David Brooks explains in The Social Animal, “…foreplay for a woman is anything that happens twenty-four hours before intercourse.”
Men, on the other hand, are more influenced by the moment. Sometimes it seems like almost any moment they are ready to jump in the sack (with almost anyone!). However, it is at this time when men are most able to release their internal barriers and get connected to deeper emotions. Sex can become a time when they can express their emotions.
Women, know you’re gonna turn him on in just a matter of moments. And men, know that she might need a slow seduction to the bedroom. You might need to give her some time to unwind. If you both know where you are both coming from, you can get to where you want to go.
2. Understand the Need
Sometimes sex is just sex. It’s great to jump into bed with your partner and have a wonderful time for no reason at all. Other times, it’s also wonderful to make love. The difference between the two? Communication.
Tell your partner what you want and how you want it. If you find it difficult to tell them what you want, then you need to figure out why. Talk to a friend, a psychic or another specialist to help you dig into why you cannot speak what you want.
3. See What You’re Projecting
Whatever you project, they will pick up on it. If you’re feeling sexy, he will see it and pick up on it. If he’s feeling slow and grumpy, you will see it.
Have you ever dressed up in a sexy outfit, hair looking perfect and then lose your keys? You run around the house trying to find them and get frustrated, even angry, in the process. You might still look sexy, but you’re giving off a strong negative vibe.
When you’re out on a date, don’t over analyze yourself, but do take some time to reflect what energy you’re projecting. If you don’t know, talk to a close (and trusted) friend who will give it to you straight with specific examples.