You can’t always get what you want… or so the song says. Surprisingly enough however, the Rolling Stones had it right. While you may have your sights set on something (or someone) that doesn’t wind up coming your way, the universe, in its infinite wisdom, will give you what you need. More importantly, if you choose to accept it, you may find what you got to be a whole lot more satisfying than what you were after in the first place!
It’s All By Design… Yours!
There may or may not be an actual reason for things when they happen. What definitely exists, however, is a lesson. Sure, it hurts when you don’t get what you want – especially if you wanted it really, really, badly. Since love is our innermost drive, the heartache multiplies when the desire was for another human being. The trouble is, regardless of what we’ve “lost out on,” we often focus so much of our attention on the object of our desire (personal, professional or romantic), that we lose track of why we actually wanted it. What needs were we looking to fulfill? How were we going about getting them met? Therein lies the gold.
If you can step aside from your disappointment and analyze two things: your motivations and how you went about pursuing your goal, you’ll unlock the mystery of your situation – and be able to grow as a result. For instance, you didn’t get the job you wanted. Look closely and you may see that you only wanted it because it would improve your standing in the eyes of your parents or friends. So your goal was misguided. Maybe it’s more important to find a path that would satisfy you on a deeper level.
Or perhaps you’re devastated by “the one who got away.” Are you pining for a solid and fulfilling partnership, or have you convinced yourself your mate was the veritable definition of perfection while selling your own needs short? Odds are, you had good intentions – love. But your process (projection) was all wrong. Mr./Ms. Right will not be perfect. Nor will he or she get away – the two of you will be equally committed to working things out. On the other hand, Mr./Ms. Right Now comes to show you how to be your best you in a relationship. And they’ll keep on coming until you’ve got it figured out! On that note, this your chance to…
Learn to Read the Signs
The benefit of 20/20 hindsight is that you can look back with clear eyes to uncover signs you may have missed along the way to your recent disappointment. If you’re like most people, you’ll find that deep down, you knew this would happen – or at least had an inkling that something was amiss. Going forward, make it a point to enter into your pursuits with open eyes and clear intentions. The universe will guide you toward your own highest good as long as you’re an active (and engaged) participant in achieving it!