Talking about the desires you would normally keep to yourself can rekindle the passion between you and your partner, so don’t be shy about telling him or her what turns you on. If you are single, you need to know the difference between what you say you want out of a relationship and what you actually want. Who are you trying to fool? If you want real and lasting love, you need to be honest about what that really looks like for you. Keeping up appearances will only get you so far. You want to be loved for who you are, not who you pretend to be.