As long as I’ve been doing this, I don’t think I’ve come to a general damage proof method to tell someone something they won’t want to hear. Tapping into the truth, tapping into the demeanor of the client and knowing how to talk to that person must be done within seconds. As an Empath I must rely upon my feelings to discern facts, yet keep the reading biased and based solely upon the client’s experiences. As a Tarot reader I must interpret a spread based on the surrounding cards to discern whether someone is (for example) emotionally drained or an alcoholic, distant or long distance, a mother or your mother, etc. Speaking intellectually with one client doesn’t always work with the next. Listening patiently to one person may be thought of as “not telling me anything” to another. Some of us just want to be told how things will be, but not why. Others need proof through divined facts, will ask the same question in different ways, and finally, still feel dissatisfied.
Another difficult hurdle is reading fear. Some people have so much fear pouring out of them that the only thing a reader can pick up is the things they are afraid of most. I think we’ve all plucked exactly what people don’t want to hear directly from their minds and had people go berserk. One way I have found to return calm to a reading is to ask the querent to relax, wiggle their toes, click their heels and focus on their feet to get them grounded…then do a spread again. What I am looking for is the Moon. Finding the Moon is oftentimes the way to get clarity on fact versus fear.
The Moon is the 18th card of the Major Arcana. Symbolic of lunar and menstrual cycles, the Moon card is a tough shoe to fit. This is a card that represents our darkest moments, levity, fertility, influences of the subconscious, powers of nature, a place with no boundaries, dreams and lucidity.
Finding out where the Moon sits in our astrological chart is also one of the most understanding ways of revealing what is going on with us at the time as well. The best way to help us cope is to show us in our own scope of comprehension why things are happening the way they are.