What is destiny? How do we know what our destiny is? So, often I am asked by callers whether or not a given opportunity or obstacle in our path is a sign about our destiny. The answer is a disconcerting,“Yes and No.”
As creatures of the earth we can sometimes be uncomfortable with uncertainty. We want to know if something is or is not going to happen. All this teetering on the edge of ‘not knowing’ unsettles our sense that there is an order to things and that there is a rhyme and reason to the flow of the universe. This doesn’t mean the universe is just in constant chaos,
it means there is a natural ebb and flow at work in the world and it our job to pay attention and listen to what the universe is showing us or telling us. That is how we find our destiny and that is how our destiny finds us. There is no ‘One’ destiny for any of us. There are a number of possibilities that exist, and while “Destiny” may call our name,” we determine which destiny we will answer to and which we may forgo.
We are constantly interacting, moving and changing within the universe and in response, the universe around us continues to change and fluctuate. So what does all this mean? It means that destiny is a series of opportunities. How we respond to those opportunities directly affects what new opportunities will arise. In the Tarot cards, The Fool represents the beginning of a journey. It implies risk, uncertainty and an absolute leap of faith. When we set out on a new journey we never know if it will bring us our hearts content or plunge us to our doom. All of life’s journeys begin this way and only we can decide if the risk is worth it. Either we walk through the door or we don’t and it is our unique life experiences that determine how we respond.
Meeting your destiny takes faith, strength and courage. Sometimes it means sacrificing what you think you want in order to take advantage of what you are actually being offered. Sometimes it means taking the first step and not being able to see the entire staircase. Life will always toss you into circumstances that may make you feel like you’re fighting a battle. Yet in life, we need those struggles because that’s how we grow and change. How successful we are on the “battlefield” often has less to do with how well we can defend ourselves and more to do with the courage it takes for us to get there. Accepting and recognizing our destiny means we must accept the uncertainty of a given outcome and be willing to take that leap of faith when an opportunity arises.
This is especially true when we keep finding obstacles in the way of our goals. How we approach those obstacles is directly related to what is going to happen. Your destiny lies in whether you can accept what is, and work with it constructively or rail against it by throwing yourself up against a brick wall. You can insist the universe be anyway you want it to be, however, all the insistence in the world won’t “make it so.”
One of my favorite sayings is, “When life hands you lemons, make lemonade;,” and when life hands you cherries, eat them while they’re fresh and sweet! When you trust your own inner voice and listen to what the universe tells you, your destiny will find you right where you are and you will recognize your destiny because you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.