The power of persuasion just might be the single most powerful tool any one person can possess, for even when there’s nothing else you can accomplish on your own, you can always persuade others to complete the task for you. As long as you are supplying people with something that they want or need, you can receive what you desire from them. This requires knowing people as well as knowing yourself. You are hardly in the position to persuade others if you cannot overcome your own personal obstacles. Here are a few guidelines to living the life that you want by creating and maintaining symbiotic relationships.
Seeing yourself and others for who they are will allow you to follow your instincts. If you are honest, your integrity and inner strength will display leadership qualities which others are automatically drawn to. If you set too much importance on any one thing or outcome, you lose perspective and easily become too attached to the situation. People feel this and have a natural aversion to desperation, for desperation gives the impression that you do not trust yourself to succeed; if you do not trust yourself, why would others trust you?
Avoid Intense Negative Emotions
People can sense emotions. If you’re emanating great negativity, they will probably avoid you altogether, so you’ll never get to first base with them. Furthermore, much energy is wasted on negative emotions such as anger, hatred, or fear. You will ultimately compromise your objective by draining yourself through those destructive feelings, and be unable to maintain a clear head when pursuing your goals.
To gain another’s support, you will need to be perceived as someone with great conviction. People will follow others who show signs of strength, who seem like an unstoppable force that won’t crumble under any challenges thrown their way.
Often, a person’s imagination will more strongly influence their own feelings than any personal desire you may share with them. Painting a verbal picture of what you see through their individual support is a great way to get their creative juices flowing and encourages them to invest more in your vision.
Make It About Them
The one sure way to make people feel invested in your goals is to include them. Discover their feelings and emotions and find a way to link them with your vision and desires. It’s no more or less than what you would require of another person who wanted your support in their personal endeavors.
Always Make It Their Idea
No one likes to feel pressured or to be told what to do. If you drop key ideas in conversations, often others will ruminate on your suggestions and come to their own conclusions which ally with your needs. Regardless of whose idea it was initially, you now have someone willing to back you up who feels like they have had an evolutionary impact on the goal at hand.