The Male Mind: 3 Ways to Get What You Want from Men
Tell Him What You Want/Need
There is no great mystery lurking behind the eyes of men. There is no great secret about how to communicate with men. So why do women have so many problems communicating with men?
Simply put: we expect them to communicate and process information like we do. In fact, they do not.
1. Stop Assuming
Way too often I assume I know how my loved one will react in a situation. If the kitchen is dirty and I’m extremely busy with work and other obligations, surely he will pitch in and do it, right? Wrong. Men, typically, are not mind readers. While women can be very empathetic and see the big picture, men do not. There are exceptions, I know. If you’re assuming he will just know, you’re wrong. Talk to him bluntly. Tell him what you want or need.
2. Compartmentalize Information
As Psychic Hern ext. 5239explains in the video, men chunk information into boxes or categories. Even Michael ext. 9604 stated something similar in his video on the male mind. Most men think in a logical manner. Women think a lot of things at once. Currently, I’m writing this article and planning what I want for dinner (for the next week!). So shift your consciousness, and break down what you want or need him to do.
3. Put it Simply and Be Straightforward
How many times have you just needed to vent and your significant other tries to solve all your problems? In my experience, men are problem-solvers. At the beginning of your conversation, you probably thought he would just know that you needed him to listen. That was an assumption. I now tell my boyfriend when I just want to vent, no solutions, just venting. He listens attentively, and I feel better.
Also, give your man the courtesy of what you’re thinking and explain your emotions as logically as you can. When I’m overwhelmed, stressed and my hormones are a bit out of control, I state it! I don’t apologize, unless I’m truly being a class act of meanness, but I let him know what’s going on in my head. It helps him understand your “moodiness” and removes the mystery of understanding your mind.