Learn How To Train Your Heart

My second favorite blog (next to ours of course!) Tricycle had another win in their Daily Dharma newsletter on Saturday. From reading all of your comments, I think this is stellar advice that we can all use.

“Often we hear the adage, “Follow your heart.” But having practiced and looked at all the things that have arisen in my heart, I’ve seen that while some things were fine and beautiful, many were not so noble. The heart is not only driven by love, kindness, and compassion; it is also driven by desire, greed, and anger. We need to train the heart, not simply follow it.

–Joseph Goldstein, from A Heart Full of Peace (Wisdom Publications)”

23 thoughts on “Learn How To Train Your Heart

  1. Frog Princess

    Hello Nunu,
    You gave me a reading about a week ago about “love” and the man I am waiting to hear from. It’s been a few months since we spoke, my heart is broken, and I haven’t heard anything from him. I have been trying to be very, very, positive and “surrender” like you said. I am also being “patient” even though it’s so hard when my natural tendency is to create “change”. I know that “he” is my soulmate. I have very strong feelings and he has shut me down. You said he has 3 Spiritual Guides and they were all debating. I know he has been very conflicted about things in his life, but I am “safe” and he told me I was “the beautiful girl next-door”. I have been meditating and communicating with my Spiritual Guide “The Emperor” and I have weeped in those conversations because of how raw my feelings are. I want to keep hoping and believe in positive change with regards to my situation. Do you think I still have hope?

  2. danadecerbo

    I feel like I’m going crazy, and I haven’t heard of anyone else experiencing the same feelings until you! My guy hasn’t spoken to me in months either, even after having great late night talks and a warm & fuzzy day leading up to the “goodbye”. I have been resisting getting involved with anyone else. I’m truley holding out and waiting for the person that I feel is my one true love in this world…in my life. My heart is killing me, and yet I don’t hear from him. I have been meditating lately and speaking to my Spiritual Guide, asking for help. Patience has never been one of my virtues, and through a psychic reading recently I was told to “surrender” to what I feel, “let him lead”, and know that he knows how I feel. “Patience” is hard to have when your heart is so incredibly broken, and I am relying on what the psychic told me and also my friends are helping me to not fall apart at the seams. Truth be told…I am supposed to learn something about myself throught all this. I’m trying to be positive and put forth that energy, but today…I was feeling down. I am better now…worked through it, and tonight I shall open up and receive guidance from my Spiritual Guide. I wish you the connections, peace, and love that you seek, and I pray that it comes to you soon and eases your heart.

  3. Aretha

    I truly sympathize with you because I was in a similar situation and it was eating me up. I first started off by changing jobs and have now even moved out of town to try and forget him but girl it’s inside not outside. Am still not sure I made the right choice but 2 years later am alone and lonely most times but the future is bright he calls at times and I think a part of him also misses me. After 5 years going onto 6 years of break and make up I thought enough is enough. Good luck and I hope you find someone better soon you just have to be tough in this world

  4. Talia

    Bizarre, I am in the exact same situation. I know a certain someone is my soulmate but he is conflicted as well and hasn’t spoken to me in months. I have moved on with someone else but my heart is really not in it and I just know the other man will show up unexpectedly and interrupt my current involvement. I waited for him but he won’t budge and I’m tired of my heart weeping too…I had to move forward. I don’t when he will come back but I know he will, I can feel it and I just don’t want to hurt the guy I am dating now. Very strange!

  5. Frog Princess

    My heart is telling me to wait patiently for someone that I am longing to hear from; someone I have tremendous love for, but they are hugely conflicted in many ways. I want so much to reach out to him, like I have done many times before, but I still wait…wait to hear a word, wait to get some kind of confirmation that he cares for me. I truely feel that we are soulmates and wouldn’t feel this strong if we weren’t. Patience is my game at this time, but it making my heart weep.

  6. Valentina V

    Hello Lamisa,I am in the same situation,the answer is that we have imagination that we lost our love.But if we try to see all the good things that we have and try to turn our emotions from victim to winner,we will find out who is not abusive,controlling,then we will see our true love who is commited to us.

  7. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Hi Joy,
    I have a friend who, now & again, will use these cards as a ” pick-me-up” when she is feeling down. She would agree with you….about how they put a positive spin on anything going on in her life. They really are pointing out life lessons aren’t they????….. but in a gentle, positive way.
    I enjoyed reading your article, Joy
    Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500

  8. Jennifer

    Many many years ago I shared with my father a nagging feeling inside me. he told me, ” that is your intuition. It is telling you something – listen to it” Suffice to say, that stayed with me. I have a strong “gut instinct” and always have. And it has always been right. I also strongly believe that “everything happens for a reason” good or bad. After 3 very transitional yrs, I have relied on this mantra – and others – to get me through. Like “fall down 7 times, get up 8”. I believe we are all smarter than we think and we need to quiet ourselves and truly LISTEN to what our intuition/gut, coupled with our heart, is telling us. 🙂

  9. Lala

    Well I’ve followed my heart and am now sitting home alone and lonely because the one my heart seems to want is so totally tuned out of what’s going on around him that it makes it impossible to get a real foot hold. So time afte time we fight and break up. My heart tells me stay with him … my head tells me walk away. So I walk and end up right back on his door step. If I could cut those threads that keep pulling me back I would and burn them. I need help. Aghhhhhhh.

  10. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Hi Kathy,
    Yeah….LOL…..you got ” shocking ” right…LOL
    You should have been there while I was wiring my ceiling fan……it was an ” illuminating ” experience…..( forgive the pun ). Well, at least, the animals were entertained for once….even the cat.
    I look forward to reading for you Kathy.
    Blessed Be )O(….Gina Rose ext.9500

  11. KathyM

    Dear Gina Rose,
    You’re Welcome!!!!
    As a CP regular, I have connected with three psychics (Seha, Jonathan & Isabella) during the past years. I have not had the privilege in doing a reading with you but from what I read & see, you well liked, wise and may I add with a “SHOCKING” personality…ha ha. When I hit one of those bumps on the road, I would really enjoy doing a reading with you.

  12. KathyM

    Dear Matt & Gina Rose
    I must agree with everything said about facing ones fears, changes and negative
    situations going on in our life. In the last two years I have experienced every one of
    these situations from divorce, then ending a bad relationship before anything really got started. It took some great Psychics advisers to help get through the tuff times and I’m totally thankful. The lessons I have learned will help me in the future but I will always need my psychic friends for those bumps on the roads.
    Thanks too all of you for all the guidance you have given us, to help see that light at the end of the tunnel. Please continue with these great blogs.

  13. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Hi Matt,
    Again…..great posting…..!!!!!!
    I love reading your posts….you have a gift with words…..much wisdom in your postings…..I agree with you 100%.
    Have a great weekend….
    Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500

  14. psychic-matt-5152

    hey guys!,.
    well I feel that the intuition were speaking of is the soul trying to get you to move towards something you need to work on,.and sometimes the only way is through is to face fear,change,and even a negative experience if the problem your working on within your self is so deep that it has to be brought to the surface and even purged if needed.
    People choose VERY difficult lives for this reason if its a problem they have carried over the course of several lifetimes,.some souls seek out extreme experiences in pursuit of “evolve at all costs”..or,.”learn,..no matter the cost”,..
    sounds like drama,.but hey,..are we not all Living the greatest story of all time?
    matt 5152

  15. Lamisa

    Although I agree with everyone who has said to trust intuition when it is telling you the opposite of what your heart is saying, I also think that our mistakes become great opportunities for personal and spiritual growth. We can learn so much from the moments in life when everything seems to be going wrong. It may not feel like it right at that moment, but eventually we can figure out what the lesson that needed to be learned really was and how we can use it to better ourselves (and, hopefully, to not make the same mistake again!).
    One of the biggest mistakes I ever made in my life turned out to really be a blessing. I had feelings for a friend of mine and had hesitated in telling him for the longest time (seven years), although I thought about him constantly during that time. When I couldn’t stand it any longer, I told him how I felt and asked if he had ever felt the same way. He and I were both in relationships at the time I told him; he was much happier in his than I was, so he told me that he didn’t want to ever hear from me again.
    I never felt it was right to tell him. The universe had been telling me all along that it wasn’t meant to be, so leave the situation alone. Because I didn’t listen, I had to hear it from him and ultimately lose a friend.
    I still have moments where I think “why was I so stupid?” and I cringe at the thought of it. But I learned a lot from this experience and it allowed me to move forward in my life. I still think about him from time to time, but I don’t obsess over him the way I used to.
    I still haven’t had the fulfilling relationship with anyone that I thought I would have with him, The universe must have something else in store for me, and now I’m looking forward to it!

  16. Psychic Maryanne Ext. 9146

    I agree with my colleagues who advise to follow one’s intuition and don’t second guess it. It’s definitely exactly like being told when in school that our first answer choice to a test question is most likely to be the correct one. Keeping our heart’s desire in perspective by balance with our intuition is an excellent method of avoiding negative experiences.

  17. Psychic Jacqueline x9472

    Psychic Jacqueline x9472 says…..Hi Everyone, so glad the comments are up and rolling, I have found in my past that when I have followed my heart at times have not turned out so good, I think my life would have been better if I would have trusted my intuition a little bit more.
    One thing is for sure, your intuition is always, always right, our biggest flub in life is when we question second guess ourself, it will mess us up every time, the same with our psychic abilities..Dont second guess first impression is always right. 🙂
    Psychic Jacqueline x9472

  18. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Follow your heart, yes, but , more important LISTEN to your INTUITION and higher self.
    ***** Remember….it is ALL about MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT combined, working together in harmony and unison….. things don’t normally work out as well when we try to seperate these three factors.
    Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500

  19. Chel 5153

    Beautifully stated!!
    My Dad used to tell me “Follow your heart, but use your head” 🙂
    Im going to check out the Tricycle, it sounds like something I can sink my teeth into!! I teach spiritual development classes, and always love to have great references for my students, thank you!
    Blessings to all,
    Chel 5153

  20. Kim Taylor

    If I had “followed my heart” in my 20s and married my then fiance, boy, would my life have been different! Thank goodness the universe had another plan. I say, trust the universe and remember the things that may seem bad at the time, can end up being your greatest gifts!

  21. Jen

    So glad you like it 😀
    I had a pretty yuck weekend as well. But the most random thing happened…after all of this (I don’t want to say bad because in the grand scheme of things its not so terrible) annoying stuff happened to me…I got into my car and there was a ladybug on my seat belt! I think that was the universe saying chill out, you’ll be ok 😀

  22. feelin_sparkly

    This is so true. (And thank you for this blog recommendation! I’ve started following it too and love it!)
    This weekend I had a couple of experiences where I didn’t listen to the ‘voice in my head’ and the consequences are now before me. Not only do I feel horrible because I could’ve prevented it, but also because I didn’t listen when here I’ve been on this journey over the last year and should’ve known better!
    In one case, I helped a friend, followed my heart, and it ended up hurting me financially. This will be resolved, but in the meantime, I suffer. (honestly am trying to look at it positively but am struggling a bit)
    There were a couple of other things like that all in a row (including my car getting towed). Saturday my prayers were: Ok! I hear you, I promise to listen to the voice in my head and my heart together!
    So I pray for miracles and hope I learned the lesson. I’m tired of making stupid mistakes in my life. In fact, I thought I was past this point…
    Thank you for listening 🙂


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