When trying to assess the “rightness” of a relationship (or determine its long-term possibilities), the single most important piece of information about your potential mate is not how good they are in bed, how helpful they are around the house, how savvy they are in managing their money, or even whether they would make a good parent. The real question you should be asking is, are they your soulmate?
Where does one begin to search for such an answer? Well, it’s a lot closer than you think — it’s time to use your inner guide.
A matter of trust
Ron DiFrancesco was on the 84th floor of the World Trade Center’s South Tower on September 11, 2001 when the second jetliner struck. Unable to find his own way down the stairwell in the fierce fire and billowing smoke, he felt someone grab his hand and lead him down 84 stories to safety at street level. DiFrancesco was the last individual to escape the South Tower prior to its collapse.
DiFrancesco, unable to describe his savoir, and never having seen any one person grab his hand, came to the conclusion that there was no “other” person. It was his “inner guide,” “guardian angel,” or “third person.” Human beings throughout history who have faced certain deaths often speak of “a third being” who leads them to safety. Aviator Charles Lindbergh, climber Reinhold Messner, and explorers Peter Hillary and Sir Ernest Shackleton are among the individuals who have attributed “a third” with saving them from certain death. The lesson? If presented with a serious situation – and confronted by a third or other/inner voice – we just have to trust.
Beyond life and death to the everyday
Luckily, the stakes don’t need to be dire to connect with our inner guides. We can turn to them for help with everything — including relationships. Here’s a simple way to start:
Try closing your eyes. Breathe deep, relax, and completely clear your mind. Once your breathing is even and calm, and your mind is (mostly) empty of thought, think of the person in question. Don’t think of them in any one way; sexual, romantic, or intellectual. Rather, see them only as a luminous being or aura of light. Concentrate on the shape, color, brilliance and essence of that light. Now visualize yourself in the same way, and keep both of you in sight in your mind’s eye.
If you’re fully focused on the visualization, you may hear phrases, as clear as if someone were whispering in your ear. What are these words saying? How do you feel? Do you feel relaxed? Do you feel anxiety? Is your heart telling you anything? Take time to reflect on the traits of the other person. Are you missing any warning signs? You will know the answer when your inner guide speaks. Trust your guide will steer you in the right direction.
Individuals from all walks of life, throughout human history, have learned to trust the voice of their inner guide. If you’re searching for something, it will bring the answer to you, the trick is that you just have to ask it. As the great Albert Einstein once said, “The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it Intuition or what you will, (but) the solution comes to you, and you don’t know how or why.”
Has your “inner guide” ever steered you out of a potentially disastrous relationship? Let us know!