There’s always a lot of talk about soulmates
– and there are a lot of ideas floating around as to what a soulmate
is. What does it mean when we meet our soulmates? This concept is one of the trickiest to understand in the entire realm of love. We are connected to our soulmates through our past lives, and I tend to believe that everyone in our lives – friends, mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, lovers – are all soulmates. They all represent and serve different purposes.
Soulmates keep encountering one another until whatever it is they need to teach one another has been achieved. Teaching and learning are the keys to unlocking the mystery of that soul connection.
When soulmates find one another they carry the baggage of whatever un-learned lessons are left from their past lives. The “final” encounter with one of your soulmates is the sweetest: this is when you can stop that ‘schoolroom banter,’ and finally relax in your unconditional love for one another.
In Tarot, I often think of the Six of Cups as representing the ultimate union of soulmates. The Six of Cups is a card of hope – a card about the dreams, once thought inexplicably lost, that are renewed in the realization that they can come true again. It is not a card of overwhelming joy – it is a card of hope. There is a recognition that something has been lost, yet from that loss something has been gained – knowledge and understanding. Most of all, it implies forgiving – and being forgiven. It is in that forgiving that renewed hope is born. This is when love answers our call.
Where things get tricky is when we’ve decided what that soulmate lesson is – before we have actually learned it. This can be particularly confounding in romantic relationships. We always recognize our soulmates, and they recognize us – this is why, when we encounter them, the connection is so undeniable and inexplicably intense. But not all soulmates are meant to be our life partners – sometimes a soulmate enters our life to teach us lessons about attachment and about letting go. Sometimes these soulmates teach us about commitment, and about holding on.
Remember what I said about being connected to our soulmates through past lives? Who we were and who they were usually determines what the dynamic of the current relationship will be. In a past life, for example, you and your sweetie may have been brothers. Perhaps the current life lesson has to do with loyalty and trust. Or if you were mother and child in a past life, it could be that the current life lesson is about tenderness and nurturing. Sometimes we’ve learned how to be tender and nurturing – yet we may have forgotten how to let ourselves to be nurtured, and treated with tenderness. Just as importantly, these life lessons are connected to the importance of learning on a deep and spiritual level that you do indeed deserve to be treated with kindness – and to be loved. If you ever doubt this, then ask yourself, “is there any human being on earth who doesn’t deserve to be loved?” If the answer is “no,” then why would you be an exception to that rule?
This is why the most important lessons we need to learn or teach through our soulmates are often the things that hurt or frustrate us the most. Whatever may be causing conflict in the current relationship is usually directly connected to what it is you need to learn from one another. Connecting with our soulmates can teach us on the deepest level that we all deserve to be loved – and we deserve to experience the joy of loving without fear and frustration.
The more fervently you believe this, and the more diligently you pursue this – without deciding for yourself whom this love should come from, and where it should be directed – the closer you will come to attaining it. It may sound corny, but love is the reason for everything. What we have to learn and what we have to teach through connecting with our soulmates, no matter what the circumstance, is that all else is rendered meaningless… without love.
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