I am a 27 year old gay male in a 5 year relationship with a 60 year old man. It has largely been a sexless marriage with him cheating on me within 2 or 3 months. Then after 3 years, I realized he was an alcoholic.
I am so confused about it. I wish the Universe would show me what to do. I once tried asking a psychic here but I never got a clear answer. I feel like I live in hell sometimes.
My friend, I sense so heavily the gravity, the sheer and utter tragedy of your situation. It would certainly be far easier if you weren’t truly taken with this gentleman, if somehow, some way, your love for him was less valid. Unfortunately, this does not seem to be the case, and sadly such a maddening connection is one which will cause all sorts of internal problems…
You’ll find yourself saying, doing, acting in ways you never would have dreamed of acting. Feelings such as you have are natural and vital emotions, especially as you are a vital and robust sort of man. In fact, I feel perhaps there is something of the primal erotic in you which first attracted your lover… And yet, it is this very thing that has become a barrier of sorts…A place he fears as one fears heat and flame.
It is not always the case, but in many situations the very thing which brings two people together initially, that searing quality of desire so unique in chemistry and form, is the very thing which might undermine a long term relationship scenario. We must learn, and learn wisely, that nature dictates many sorts of relationships, and none of them are more important than another.
Your partner had and still has a certain lust for you… And yet, for reasons of your own, you’ve wanted to make a commitment where Nature has perhaps dictated such was not possible. There are various reasons, and his lack of sustained and focused passion at this time is but one of many. I feel, on my levels, that this learning experience has been hard for you, but very necessary. I think that in retrospect you will find that the slaughtering of your own ideals will be to your benefit in relationships to come. My advice? A relationship without sex can be helped… But a relationship with no hope of sex when that is a vital aspect of communication for one of the partners simply must be abandoned. Free yourself from the shackles, my friend, for the situation has run its course. It will be difficult to find a new path, but all the tears will cleanse your soul and help you move on, brother. Let evolution have Her way.
Psychic Liam ext. 9290