I got married in December 2002. I was really happy for the first three years. Then I started having these dreams — I should call them nightmares -– in which he was cheating on me. So I told him and he said, “That will never happen.” But, he was seeing somebody by then. It still hurts. I will never forget this because he cheated on me! They still talk. He has her phone number in his cell phone. For me this is the end of everything! But I can’t let all this go. Please help!
Psychic Liam’s response:
Greetings — my friend. Looking at this, you might assume it is a chaotic mesh of happenings and coincidence which led to the demise of your marriage.
However, nothing could be further from the truth. Your marriage, you say, was a good one. And on the surface it seemed so, but I sense very strongly that deep within you, you were nursing a world of hurt caused by men from your past.
Your fear of infidelity and your sense of insecurity were not born in this marriage. You brought it with you, and for a time, it slumbered.
But it always lurked beneath the surface — a phantom of fear and self-loathing. Those dreams you had were very dangerous things. I always advise my clients to approach intuition in any form with extreme caution, lest you manifest fear inadvertently. The dreams were intuitive only in that they showed you “one possible outcome.” That outcome just happened to be the one you feared the most. So you dwelt on it and replayed it over and over again in your head, putting more and more energy into your fear. You allowed it to become an obsession.
The power of suggestion is very potent. You say you accused your husband on a single occasion, but I feel he knew of your suspicions long before. Yes, he was tempted by this woman, and knew that you suspected it would bother you. It became that much more alluring. You made this woman a forbidden item; made her appear threatening and sexually potent in his eyes. You created the archetype for him and though your suggestions might have been slight at first … it’s a slippery slope.
Ironically, I don’t feel your marriage is as doomed as you seem to believe. But counseling is definitely in order, and you must get help for your self-esteem and fears. This will sound radical, but at this point, you cannot demand he give her up. If you do, it will only thrust him deeper into her sphere of energy. She has a great advantage here, but, I sense he still wants to be married to you. Work gently with him. Be nurturing. Suspend your judgments and never use guilt tactics. Most of all, stop giving her energy to play with. They are not sleeping together now. But if she has her way — they will be soon enough.