Soulmate Relationships: What You Need to Know
When you meet someone special, you wonder if they’re the right one. Will this last? Will you be together long-term or will this end soon? Before opening your heart to that one special person, it’s very important to open your heart to yourself. This means you should love yourself first.
As we spend time alone with ourselves we get to know who we really are. We see how well we enjoy our own company. We discover what we are passionate about, interested in and like to do. This also gives us the opportunity to recognize our strengths and acknowledge our considered weaknesses. We can become the type of person we would enjoy being with. It is important for us to become comfortable with ourselves—to love and accept the way we are right now—as we continue to improve and develop ourselves.
Is the Timing Right?
Timing is very important in finding that special person. Are you really ready? Have you given yourself enough time to heal from your last relationship or divorce before rushing into another relationship? Our soulmates are attracted to our inner selves. The quality of the person we attract directly correlates to how we feel about ourselves, and what we think of ourselves.
What Soulmate Relationships Feel Like
Even our worst relationships give us a gift and a blessing. Our most difficult or painful relationships may have had soul agreements or karmic lessons we learned from each other. It is often in those tougher, harsher relationships that we grow immensely and prepare to receive the love of our lives.
When you meet your soulmate you will feel a connection. It may be a strong warmth between the two of you, a familiarity you cannot place and a loving, very peaceful feeling. You notice the communication flows between the two of you. You find it is easy to express yourself. This person gets you! You laugh about each other’s idiosyncrasies. If you should disagree, you are able to talk about it and accept any differences. You might feel as if you have known this person for years. You may see visions of this person from another life you shared, or you just intuitively feel this is your soulmate. You sensed life was pulling and bringing you both together.
Your soulmate is your lover, your best friend and partner. You can tell each other anything. (You still may need to filter the way you say it.) You have a great respect for one another. You are with each other in good times and help each other pull through difficulties and life challenges. You listen to each other and you help each other. You are each other’s best support system.
Is Your Soulmate Ready for You?
Just because you’re ready to meet your soulmate, it doesn’t mean they’re ready to meet you. They could be married or still in a relationship. If your soulmate finally finds you and realizes they are with the wrong person, what happens then? This can result in their coming to terms with why their marriage or relationship has not been working, even with all their best efforts.
Your soulmate may have baggage from an abusive childhood or from leaving a relationship that was disloyal or unfaithful and they may have unresolved hurt and abandonment issues. They may has a difficult time with intimacy, trust and opening up to you. In these situations, you may feel a push/pull dance between the two of you. (You get close. They push away. They come back.) Remember, your soulmate wants to be in this relationship but is scared to get hurt again or is afraid you will leave them. This push/pull may go on for weeks or months.
If you experience this, I suggest you pull away and don’t always answer the phone when they call. Give them distance. Typically when you pull away the other person will sense this void and return quicker because they do not want to lose you.