Dig Yourself Out of a Hole
There are many relationship killers you need to watch out for. A few of the most devastating are cheating (affairs), money disagreements, disrespect, boredom, and resentment. While these may be five of the worst, there several others that are so common, most of us have dug shallow graves in our relationships and didn’t even realize it. The good news is avoiding relationship killers is as easy as being aware of their often sneaky presence.
“Notice if you find yourself overly fighting to make a relationship that doesn’t feel right fit.” – Psychic Leo ext. 5265
The Comfort Martyr
Comfort, security, and familiarity are all important aspects of a good relationship. What some people don’t realize is the comfort of their physical realm can have influence over their emotions. How many of you have been dealing with a rocky relationship, while at the same time trying to remodel a house, go on a diet, heal an injury or cold/flu, or deal with an unruly pet? Studies have looked at how comfort levels affect relationships, and they have come to the conclusion that even a wobbly stool under your kitchen counter may be the source of many arguments. The takeaway from this: While you can’t have a perfect life, you can pay attention to the natural ups and downs of your relationship, and avoid taking on big projects that may put more strain on an already difficult situation.
The Comfort Hog
The opposite problem of living with discomfort is allowing yourself to become too comfortable in your relationship and surroundings. We know that safety and security feel very satisfying in a relationship. However, you have to consider the reality of what makes a relationship succeed. Think of all the work that went into courting your mate, and then imagine the outcome if you had just let things go and did not put forth that extra effort? Relationships need regular maintenance. If you neglect your health, you get sick. If you neglect your car, it breaks down, and if you ignore your partner, they’re going to seek other pastures where they’ll feel more appreciated. Feel like your relationship is broken down and want some insight? Call today for a love reading from Psychic Dylan ext. 5495 and get the answers you need.
Nagging is rarely the real problem in a relationship. However, it is often one of the first signs of trouble. Women nag because they are sensitive to a man who is holding back, and this is her way of trying to get what she needs. The problem is men hate this, and it ends up working against the relationship. Men nag too, and they do it by repeating actions they know irritates their spouse. They often do this out of retaliation of feeling disrespected or unfulfilled. Instead of nagging the relationship to death, a better way to garnish attention is to rekindle curiosity and mystery by taking on a new hobby, or joining a club together. Don’t allow nagging to become the focus of every argument, as there is almost always an underlying cause, which is what you should really be talking about.
The Tired Excuse
Fighting for a relationship is hard work. Sometimes it is easier to withhold emotions or accept the illusion that everything is fine. Some men give a woman what she wants, just to keep her off his back (nagging), or the woman ignores his indiscretions because she doesn’t think it will be worth arguing about. We all experience resentment. However, when these feelings are not dealt with they can lead to empty feelings of simply not caring anymore. Most relationships will eventually come to a bridge that seems so difficult to cross; it may seem easier to walk around. When you shut off learning about each other, compromising, and caring about what each other thinks, you hinder growth. If the problem is big (important) enough, you could miss out on an opportunity to reach a higher stage in your relationship.
The Experience Factor
There is a good and bad way to read from your relationship experience. A couple may look at their previous failures, and take certain signs as meaning it’s time to exit a relationship. Experience also teaches us to watch for red flags, and if we think we see something familiar; we walk away. The more we use experience as an excuse to exit a relationship, the easier it becomes. In addition, if you have not taken the time to find closure from your previous experiences, the same problems will enter each new relationship, regardless of who you’re with. Learn from your experiences, but don’t fear them. Don’t rely on memories to tell you when it’s time to walk. Each relationship is a new beginning, filled with unique experiences, and the chance to find better solutions to those familiar problems.
“Victimhood and martyrdom are two excuses we use to stay powerless.” – Psychic Royce ext. 5448