5 More Crazy-Makers

(For the first part of this article, see: 5 Classic Crazy-Makers)

Now that we’ve touched on how to cope with the Control Freak, the Know It All, the Constant Crisis, the Co-Dependent and the Cheat, it’s time to expand our crazy making repertoire! After all, there are plenty of destructive people in the world and, like it or not, we have to deal with them on a regular basis. So, rather than letting these annoying attitudes get the best of you, here’s how to tackle them before you reach your sanity’s end zone!

The Passive Aggressive

Not courageous enough to deal with confrontation, these (sometimes unintentionally) underhanded types still need to have their plentiful opinions heard. As a result, they try to frame them in non-aggressive ways – “don’t you think you’d be better off if you did [things my way]…?” is a common passive-aggressive refrain. Their goal, of course, is to make you feel insecure. Whether that’s to build themselves up or avoid taking blame when they’ve screwed up depends on the circumstance. Rather than letting these responsibility-evaders get away with their schtick, call them out on what they’re actually trying to say. Odds are, they’ll deny it… but maybe they’ll think again before trying the same tactics on you next time!

The Lecturer

These vainly verbose types don’t even pause to take a breath… Especially when they’re telling you what it is you should be doing differently. Lecturers can be well intentioned (after all, they’re only trying to “help”), but no matter. They’re annoying all the same, even on the rare occasion that they’re right. In fact, sometimes that’s even worse! Rather than sit through another instructional tirade wherein a Lecturer doesn’t come up for air (while you somehow manage to feel suffocated!), simply agree with their point and change the subject, or ask them to respectfully note your desire to agree to disagree and move on to something – or someone else.

The Blindsider

Everything seems hunky dory when the Blindsider first shows up. Then – wham!  They ambush you with a sneak attack so fierce that you’re caught off guard. Weren’t you just having a perfectly good time? Most likely, yes. The trouble is that these conniving creatures bank on the element of surprise in either hurting your feelings or showing you who’s boss. Don’t let them win! The next time a Blindsider comes out of nowhere with a score to settle, stay calm and refute them – either with a barb just as sharp or, better (since they won’t know what to do with it), a killer helping of kindness. They may keep trying to get your goat for a while, but once they see it’s impossible, they’ll give up and try to blindside someone more susceptible!

Mr. or Ms. Too Cool for School

Nothing can impress these been-there-done-that jetsetters… at least that’s what they want you to believe. Mr. or Ms. Too Cool For School doesn’t show enthusiasm or excitement. Doing that would indicate that they’re wowed by something new to them, and nothing is new to them. Ever. Rather than feeling the need to stifle your excitement the next time you’re around one of these cooler-than-thou crusaders, express yourself authentically. It may not make you “cool” in their eyes, but what would? After all, it’s impossible to impress the unimpressible. Authenticity is a lot cooler anyway!

The Contrarian

It doesn’t matter what you say, these argumentative annoyers are bound to disagree. In fact, they’ll probably say exactly the opposite – just to get your goat (or make themselves feel informed and important). More than likely, contrarians don’t care if they’re actually wrong, they just want you to think they’re right… These are not people who listen to reason, and as such, they’re better ignored (politely or blatantly – it’s up to you). After all, what you’ll face should you choose to face off with them is an absence of logic. These are people for whom pesky “facts” often get in the way.

What are your favorite crazy-makers?

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4 thoughts on “5 More Crazy-Makers

  1. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    PS….. Dear Kmlemak,

    One more thing…..just the fact that you are aware of your weak points and also have the desire to work on them is 50% of the battle ( won ) right there !!!

    The latter 50% just takes time, patience, and consistency……you should be proud of the fact that you are holding yourself accountable and are trying to work on yourself!!!!!….. So don’t be so hard on yourself.

    And don’t forget to focus on your good points now & then as well……
    ….work on the weaker points ( everybody has them), yes……but praise your strong points and achievements too!

    We are all down here to learn and grow……

    I hope this helps you…..

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500

  2. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Dear Kmlemak,

    My Guides were talking to me about your post…..they took great interest in it….So, I decided to pass it on to you …..here is their message to you:

    You are going thru alot right now…..

    I sense that you are not passive-aggresive……there is a big difference between being passive-aggresive and just a bit unsure and timid about your decisions, which is why you stress before having to make a decision or face a situation.

    As you leave this marriage behind you….as you heal and recover…..my Guides are telling me that you grow stronger and more confident.

    You are in a transit period right now, this is a time for healing, learning, and growth on all levels……you will discover many strengths within yourself as you go thru period in your life.

    I wish you peace, health and happiness.

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500

  3. kmlemak

    I’m a passive-aggressive. But I want to change. I really do fear confrontation. Many times, all I have to do is think about an upcoming situation and I get everything from “butterflies” to tears!! I want to change, and I’ve been trying to over the years, yet even though I think I’ve made progress, I’m still not sure how. (I’m also trying to stop micro-managing. I can catch myself doing that better, and I “take back” my instructions.)

  4. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500


    Good article in dealing with certain types of behavior…..I built my career reading for Psychiatrists and Psychologists who refer me their patients and clients…..in particular…..your advice on passive-aggresive behavior rings very true. Pychiatrists have taught me to ” call these types out ” immediately.

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500


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