Suzanne in Palm Desert, California writes:
I recently started dating a man who is a co-worker. Our company has a rule about not dating co-workers, so we haven’t really said anything to anyone. I had a dream about him wearing a tuxedo. He does not wear this type of attire at work, though he did tell me that he had to wear dress shirts and a tie in a previous job. He said that he has never worn a tux except to his sister’s wedding. I was wondering what it meant. He is an extremely good looking man, but has some depression issues because of his parents’ death within the last three years. I wish he would snap out of it. I am a Christian person and understand death. He is too, to a point, but he said that he wants some kind of sign. I told him that his parents were at peace together, and he doesn’t need a sign. So what about the tuxedo dream? And do you feel any future with this man for me, besides friendship?
Since a tux is the ultimate in dress attire, your guy might be trying to keep up the appearance of being successful, confident and together. Perhaps he senses your impatience with his grief – fiery Aries that you are! – so he tries to put on a good face when he’s around you. It sounds like he could use some help in dealing with the loss of his parents. People grieve in different ways and for different periods of time. He may or may not get the sign that he’s seeking, but one excellent way to connect with those who have passed on is through dreams. Since you’re interested in dream interpretation, you might consider talking to him about “programming” a dream where he talks to his parents. He would need to keep this intention strongly in mind before he goes to sleep. It may take a while, so doing this as a nightly ritual is important. Saying a little prayer that he be granted a meeting with his parents will also help him manifest a dream about them. Such a dream might be the sign that he’s been waiting for, which will enable him to move on from the past so that your relationship can move forward.