Step by Step Guide: How to Stop Taking Things Personally

Step by Step Guide: How to Stop Taking Things Personally | California Psychics

Dropping Our Defenses

As humans, we tend to be naturally defensive. When things happen to us that feel threatening, it is easy for the situation to take a turn for the negative. This is why misunderstandings can easily leave us feeling upset. It’s easy to misunderstand when people have different communication styles. Understanding the communication styles of the people around you, from family and friends to coworkers, will help shorten the gap between their intent and their impact.

We encounter words and actions by the thousands daily, but what happens when something causes us to be defensive? It can be time to take a step back and consider what is happening. By understanding yourself and those around you, it will be easy to stop taking things personally.

Tools for Better Understanding

Check on Yourself

When we take a hit emotionally, sometimes there is an underlying culprit that is really eating at us. This can be mental or physical. Take a moment to check on yourself and make sure that the words or actions are hurting you, and not something else. Did you sleep well? Are you hydrated? Maybe something else has been bugging you or causing you to be more on edge.  Writing down your feelings is a great way to sort out what is bothering you so much about the interaction.

Hit Pause on Your Reactions

Understanding your feelings is one part of the equation, the next is responding to them. We react to emotions both internally and externally. Sometimes an abundance of energy can cause us to feel overwhelmed with feelings. Taking a moment can help all parties involved. Being aware of what happened or what was said and taking time to process it may help you see that it was not a personal dig or attack. It may also help you understand both sides of the situation.

Step Into Their Shoes

The age-old adage of “you can’t know a person until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes,” rings true when it comes to taking things personally. Think about the person that did or said something that felt like an attack- what are they going through? Perhaps they are upset for their own reasons and did not mean for those emotions to spill out onto you.

Listen to the Feedback

Feedback is vital to growth. It’s okay to make mistakes, and it is even better to take critique gracefully. While someone’s delivery may not have been in your preferred style, strip down their words or actions into something that you can use to better yourself. Reflecting on growth is a great positive takeaway. Part of what feels so personal about something may be because it picks at insecurity. If this is true for your situation, think about ways that you may overcome that insecurity. Don’t forget to give yourself some extra self-love, and be thankful for the opportunity to strengthen yourself.

Look to the Stars

Looking up at the sky (or searching the internet) to see what is going on celestially may give you some added insight into the situation. Different alignments, shifts, and rotations can all play into a heightened state of emotional volatility here on Earth. If the stars are causing tensions to rise, consider the possibility of revisiting the situation or person during a different phase.

Release Negative Energy

Once in a while, there are situations where you truly are taking the brunt of someone’s attack. It is never personal because their words and their actions are a reflection of themselves. At that point, your priority should be to shield yourself from their negative energy. Remind yourself that you deserve to be respected. You can accept a person while making the conscious choice not to accept their negativity. Shielding yourself from a hurtful situation is not the easiest thing, but with the proper tools, you can overcome it.

Create a Personal Toolbox

Creating a resource that you can look to when feeling personally attacked can help you overcome those types of feelings. These resources may be mental or physical. Mentally, you can prepare a mantra that reminds you of your worth and reminds you to stay grounded. Physically, you may choose crystals that empower you with confidence and calmness; such as Citrine, Amethyst, and Tiger’s Eye.

Choose How to Respond

When someone comes at you in a way that feels personal, you can make the choice to move past the feelings of unpleasantness. While insecurities can cause those feelings to amplify, create a plan to combat that discomfort.

Whether the situation is malicious or not, give yourself a moment to evaluate your feelings, your relationship with the person, and what actually happened. By preparing, you will be better equipped to deal with things that feel personal in the future.

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