I often receive calls from women decrying the fact that they are now 50 – they express with deep sadness the notion that all options are closed off. How often do we see commercials that use the words, “age-DEFYING”? Do we really want to DEFY age and continue to look 20 years old or do we want to wear our wrinkles as evidence of experience and wisdom? Aging gracefully isn’t the easiest thing to do, but trying to cover your age with physical alterations will never hide the fact that you’re not “young” anymore (and by the way, “youthfulness” is all in your heart anyway). There are qualities in a human being other than a wrinkle-free face that are age-indicative. The demeanor of a 20 year old is often perky, cute with a bit more than a touch of arrogance. This is the time of life when we think we know it all. Come on! Do we ever actually know “it all” on this journey called life? Maybe … but definitely not at 20.
Recent studies show that between the ages of 50 and 74, human beings hit their most creative peak. It’s the time when creative expression flourishes as we discover the truth about ourselves and our purpose here on earth. We begin to understand what’s important and allow ourselves complete freedom of expression – we loose our inhibitions so to speak, and start revealing our inner truths without fear of repercussions or of what others think. It’s an invigorating time in life when we feel able to pass on the wisdom of our life experiences and the many lessons we’ve learned. We can truly start to look at suffering and pain in a new light. Understanding the true meaning behind the higher power that manifests in this world allows us to utilize the same power that lives in each one of us.
The song, Looking For Love in All the Wrong Places describes quite accurately our battle as youth. Often, we look back at how we searched for love in acceptance and approval from others. As we grow and evolve we realize that self-acceptance, accepting life for what it is, and inner peace is actually the well that holds the wealth. This is where we should be looking for love. We become more inner-directed, rather than outer-directed. So, after 50, we have the opportunity to set our priorities straight, turn our topsy-turvy world right side up and begin to live the rest of our lives with complete satisfaction that we are doing our best. This is the magic of being a self-empowered, mature person in the midst of the joy of mid-life. It is a grand day when we realize we are the directors and authors of our own experience. It is at this time in life that we can now sit back, relax and watch with admiration. So, give yourself a break – enjoy every day because before you know it, the party is over.