Give Yourself the Gift of Closure

Let Go and Move on Once and for All

Are you hurting from the relationship that just ended abruptly with no explanation? Were you put aside for another lover and don’t know why? Are you trying to understand why you got laid-off from your job without a warning? Perhaps you’re missing someone you never got a chance to say goodbye to? What you need is closure, and most of us are looking for closure with respect to something hurtful, abrupt, confusing or tragic. Closure is a gift. How do you get the gift of closure? You give it to yourself!

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Things don’t always turn out the way you want them to, and sometimes the things you never thought would change on you. When this kind of change happens, it can leave you feeling cold, lonely, and wanting answers. Maybe you just want to feel like you have a say, if not the last word.

What Trips You Up

Even if some of the things you seek closure on weren’t good for you—the job that was going nowhere, the relationship full of problems—sometimes you simply can’t get over them because they didn’t happen the way you would want or expect. It’s never easy to just accept change, especially when it blindsides you or you don’t get to defend your position, but why is it so hard to give yourself the gift of closure?

  • It was something that affected you but was out of your control
  • You feel like something was done to you without having your say in the matter
  • It seemed to just come out of nowhere unexpectedly
  • You simply can’t understand why it happened at all

The Brick Wall Analogy

If you are walking down the street and come upon a brick wall, what can you do? Can you stand there and wait for someone to move it? Will you want to know why they put it there in the first place? Should you wait for them so you can tell them how stupid they are? Or, can you work your way over or around the wall, so you can get to where you’re going?

Perhaps It Saves You

Just because something happens in a way other than what you envision, that doesn’t mean it’s already over and done. You still have options and choices and can try again in a different way, or at a later time. Another way to look at this situation is to think that perhaps the universe is saving you from something worse—the consequences of what you want could lead you down a bad path.

Need vs. Want

Do you need closure in order to move on or survive?  No, you don’t need it; you just want it. The truth is that you can’t look to others to give you closure; the only real gift of closure is the one you give yourself. Wanting closure but not getting it is like being in a jail cell. You can’t go anywhere. But when you realize that you’ve had the keys to your cell all along, you can set yourself free and move forward and seek the next chapter.

Speaking of chapters, think of how boring a book would be if it only had one chapter that you kept reading over and over again, and worse, what if you kept reading that chapter hoping that the next time it would have a different outcome.  It’s time to turn the page to a new chapter of your life! However, as long as your closure depends on speaking to or seeing someone else, you’ll remain right where you are.

How to Give Yourself the Gift of Closure

1. Take Time to Grieve
Whether it’s a person you lose through death, a relationship that’s over or even a lost job, no one is denying that there is a void where none was before. In fact, this process is a necessary step in healing, but it becomes unhealthy if you stay in that place too long. Let go.

2. Honor What Was Once There
Give your situation a little “funeral” to put it to rest. Write down the name of your lover or your boss (or whatever or whoever let you go) on a piece of paper and have a burning ceremony.  Wish them well, thank them for the lesson/the journey and announce that you are ready for the next phase of your life. Burning that paper will give you a sense of closure to the subject. However, burning a paper with someone’s name on it while saying, “Burn in hell,” is not closure—it’s just mean.

3. Don’t Try to Fix It
If someone can’t/won’t give you closure, you may feel that putting all the blame on yourself allows you to fix the situation. However, there’s nothing to fix. As postmalesyndrome.com put it, “…being a ‘closure hunter’ and humiliation go hand-in-hand.”

4. Plan Your Next Move
Your next move should be one that is only limited by your own belief in yourself. Trust that whatever has left your life wasn’t meant to last forever. Tell yourself that you’re ready to start that new chapter.

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9 thoughts on “Give Yourself the Gift of Closure

  1. LJ

    Dear Maria: Giving yourself permission to leave a relationship that isn’t working is a way of giving yourself closure – you ended it and you don’t have to deal with the pain it caused you any longer. You don’t have to forgive the person who hurt you (although it would lift your energy level up a great deal). All you need for closure is an ending. Don’t ask what brought you there, but rather tell yourself that you were wise enough to know what was and wasn’t working for you. You can forgive yourself for holding on to this for so long and letting it go so that it doesn’t hold you back any longer. Look forward, not backward. Best of luck dear.
    ~LJ

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  2. CM

    This spoke to me, I have been on hold for a while now because of a man who wasn’t worth my heart breaking over.. I’m going to try the funeral and burning tge paper with his name on it..

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    1. LJ

      Good for you CM – Enjoy the ceremony and the freedom you’ll have from painful situation. Have a wonderful life.
      ~LJ

  3. Maria Perales

    May be it was talking to me i was very hurt i have to leave out of a very long relationship i never got closure an still cant for give this person i got the end of the stick

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    1. LJ

      Dear Maria: This was most certainly written for your and for anyone else who feels they need closure. Waiting for someone else to give you closure is basically giving them all the power over your happiness and your ability to move on. Give yourself closure girl and give yourself freedom and the chance to perhaps find love again when you’re ready. Good luck.
      ~LJ

  4. Thomas Jimenez

    Wow this whole thing is about me I said something’s they weren’t true lied and hurt and got that person mad. I feel like everything this story talked about is about me Letting Go is the answer amazing how I got this email when I was thinking about this situation no joke wow !

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    1. LJ

      Dear Thomas: That, my friend, is called “serendipity.” You were at the right place at the right time to receive a message you badly needed. I’m glad that you feel this helped you. All the best.
      ~LJ

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