You’ve been close friends for some time and now your friend has chosen a mate you don’t like one bit. The most important thing you can do is silence your loose tongue. If you value your relationship with your friend, look for the positive attributes of their new mate. You might be feeling a little jealous … now your friend has a new priority, and it’s not you.
When your friend is so wrapped up in their new partner they can’t see straight, you are going to have to have some patience and support them. It’s easy to criticize someone who has changed the group dynamic, but this was your friend’s choice. Resist the chance to immediately list all of the partner’s faults when they get into an argument.
Once your friend has moved on from a fight and forgiven their partner, you have to drop it too — stop cataloging it away as a future weapon against this person. It will only lead to bad feelings for everyone. If you are single, you may be able to widen your circle of potential mates through this new addition to your group. Your friend is probably not looking for the same qualities you are in a mate, so don’t judge your friend too harshly for sharing their life with someone who doesn’t meet your standards. It’s only going to lead to the demise of your friendship and your friend will stop sharing with you.
Try to make an effort to arrange activities and events that everyone can participate in as a group. If you’re married, your spouse might be able to occupy your friend’s partner and you will get the quality time you need with your friend. If you stop including your friend because of their new mate, it’s only going to affect you negatively.
Drop any bad nicknames you may be using for your friend’s partner or spouse. If word gets back to them, you are the one who is going to lose. Nicknames will also self-sabotage your efforts to form a more positive opinion of this person.
Why is all the responsibility on you? You are the one who doesn’t like your friend’s partner. If you want to remain close with your friend, then you have to make an effort to respect the choices that are not yours to make.