Mark Twain once said that “There is a charm about the forbidden that makes it unspeakably desirable.” Mr. Twain was referring to something that is off-limits, yet tantalizing! Tucked away in our minds are cascades of unspeakable treasures and pleasures, many of them rooted in the experiences of our youth. Those moments of ecstasy have been frozen in time, tucked aside for our pleasure, in remembrance only.
When we find ourselves alone, in a bad relationship or marriage, extremely miserable and maybe even angry at the powers that be, we can turn to these memories for joy and laughter, love, passion and the pleasure of innocence. We can draw comfort from them. They uplift us; they put a smile on our faces; they heal us.
Personally, I can’t go to the dentist without drawing on my first sexual experiences when I was much younger. I always felt that he was my soul mate… I would have a smile on my face the entire time my dentist was drilling. Works for me!
Yet to try to physically go back to those moments in real time would be impossible. They’re simply not there. It would be like seeing Dorothy’s house in the Wizard of Oz falling on Locasta, the Good Witch of the North! There’d be no magical power in your hidden treasures. No trip to the Emerald City. All the magic would be lost!
Many of my clients, both male and female, have been searching for those unspeakable treasures, the forbidden fruit of past loves, suspected soul mates, ex-lovers, even their old crushes from the fifth grade. Many who seek will find through Facebook! In trying to rekindle these old memories from the past, my clients often do reunite with their first memorable flame, although most of them are very disappointed. If my client is in a committed relationship and in a bad space in its development, most of them remotely cheat on their significant other, often through chat or text messages, causing even more difficulties in the current situation. Forty percent of these clients actually find themselves eating from the tree of forbidden fruit face-to-face. In searching for the Garden, they end up in a dingy hotel room.
The eating of the forbidden fruit written of in Genesis is a metaphor for the loss of quality of life caused by immorality. We need to keep our unspeakable treasures hidden in our heart. Once you try to duplicate them, they are eradicated for eternity. If you feel you must venture out, look for something new and exciting. People change mentally, spiritually and physically. They come with too much baggage. My last encounter with an old lover was a disaster. He was 200 lbs. overweight, red-faced from extremely high blood pressure, and barely recognizable to me. He had been married to my best friend for twenty-three years. At the time I decided to reconnect with him, they were ending their relationship with divorce. On our first date (at McDonald’s, of all places), he was only interested in dumping his horrible life story in my lap. I continued to talk to him on occasion, but only saw him twice after that initial reunion. He dumped on me both times. The worst of it was that he thought I was another girl he dated back in the day! What a waste of a good memory. Now all I have is sympathy for him, and embarrassment for my mistake. If you feel you’re being drawn to a past relationship that was good, don’t be fooled. There’s something going on in your life that sends you back, as if you stepped into a time machine and set the cruise control in reverse.
If you find yourself in this space, please call California Psychics. We will help preserve those precious memories, and take a look at just what has gone wrong in your “present time” circumstance, that has caused you to reach into your treasure chest of “Magical Memories” and travel into a foreign land which does not exist any longer.