Pandora’s Box of Facebook

Have you every wondered what happened to that high school or college sweetheart? Longed for a more uncomplicated love? The halcyon days when the pressures of jobs, families, kids and finances did not exist? These days through the help of cyberspace, the infamous Facebook and various other online social networking tools have made it possible to reconnect with a long lost love.

What could possibly come of it? Could that door, when opened, become the proverbial Pandora’s Box full of mischief? It is my belief, as a psychic, that things happen for a reason. That the universe brings us what we need good or bad. We may not like it but it teaches us valuable lessons. Often we feel stuck in the daily routine of our lives and relationships. A trip down memory lane with that hottie from high school could be the light at the end of a dreary tunnel.

Social networks allow us to explore the world of “what ifs.” More often than not, these reconnections blaze like a star at first, then fizzle in the light of reality. Why is that? Could it be that we have all grown as people in the last 10, 20, 30, or even 40 years? Imagine that!

Magical things are happening from these cyberspace connections, both negative and positive. Soulmates find each other, again completing a circle. Old issues are resolved amongst families and loved ones. The most baffling of all of these is the reconnection with the Lost-Love. Many find themselves in a loveless marriage or relationship — the long, Lost-Love offers escape and hope, sometimes this connection has a hidden meaning though. It may help you take another look at the love that is around you and you may gain a new perspective and understanding.

11 thoughts on “Pandora’s Box of Facebook

  1. mariafish

    I recently connected with a man I had a CRUSH on in high school via FaceBook. I am single, divorced for over ten years and he also was divorced. I still live close to where we grew up but he moved to the midwest. Well, sparks flew and we spent hours on the phone and sending texts back and forth. Then he started telling me about how and why his marriage ended, and the ugly truth unfolded. YES, people change completely in 10 / 20 years and all I can say is WOW, I’m glad he wasn’t local and that I discovered the unsavory character before I became more involved!

    Being single, I am on a few ‘free’ dating sites like [okcupid/com] and [plentyoffish/com]. Ladies, I would NEVER entertain the thought of being with a married man, but I can’t tell you how many married men have profiles on these free dating sites [with no pictures of course] that try and solicit ‘relationships’ with single women. I get hit on from men that openly admit they are married, but only on paper, and that the wife cheated on them first, that they don’t have passion, or that they can’t talk to their wife, blah blah blah blah blah. I tell them to buzz off and they hear ‘NO’ and it makes them try harder…

    It disgusts me, and makes me feel sympathy and compassion for their wife. I imagine she probably has no idea.

    The sad thing is there are women that will do this. Why any woman in her right mind would entertain the thought of thinking they can have a healthy relationship with a married man is just plain stupid. HOW CAN YOU TRUST A MAN THAT CHEATED ON HIS WIFE WITH YOU?! Even if you become his next wife, you don’t think he will eventually do this to you too? Wake up! Being alone is much better than being with someone like this.

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  2. Carmen

    I can’t say much for myself because it’s not happening to me. Having social networking connections bring more friends in a wider scope from around the globe. It even connects ‘never heard’ relatives and only through these sites, namely: Friendster; Twitter, Facebook; WAYN; Netlog; Tagged… you name them.. do help refresh the Hi’s and Hello’s.

    About the rekindling of past love affair scenarios through this site… hmmm, I’m a newbie. And if ever, I don’t agree this should be the right avenue.

    So I say, Good luck. May good things come in the right places and time. Hope everything’s well and ends well

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  3. Carmen

    I can’t say much for myself because it’s not happening to me. Having social networking connections bring more friends in a wider scope from around the globe. It even connects ‘never heard’ relatives and only through these sites, namely: Friendster; Twitter, Facebook; WAYN; Netlog; Tagged… you name them.. do help refresh the Hi’s and Hello’s.

    About the rekindling of past love affair scenarios through this site… hmmm, I’m a newbie. It’s not what I thought. So I say, Good luck. May good things come in the right places and time. Hope everything’s well and ends well

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  4. Carmen

    I can’t say much for myself because it’s not happening to me. Having social networking connections bring more friends in a wider scope from around the globe. It even connect ‘never heard’ relatives and only through these sites, namely: Friendster; Twitter, Facebook; WAYN; Netlog; Tagged… you name them.. do help refresh the Hi’s and Hello’s.

    About the rekindling of past love affair scenarios through this site… hmmm, I’m just naive about this whole idea. So I say, Good luck. May good things come in the right places and time. Hope everything’s well and ends well

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  5. jp

    just wondering how meany men that cheat and get divorced for the girlfriend does it work out? I have read some pretty bad things that men have done and some regreats from women, I had read in dear abby that this women had a afaire they both left the spouses for each outher and she told her story about the afaire and how her life is now she said that she gave up a wondful husband and family life for her lover what he has given her inreturn is a life of hell he spends ALL holiadays with his X and kids and once a month Sunday
    dinner with the X and kids the new wife is left home by herself she is not allowed in his X’s house. and her lover now husband (ya right) thinks this is ok she has tried to go back to her X on her knees and its to late for that. so she talks about what she throught would be a wonderful life with this man and all she gave up for him. a great husband, her kids that don’t have much to do with her. His kids that have nothing to do with her a husband that thinks this is ok. but looks at her with regreat and spends time on the phone with the X working on his X’s house that they onced shared monthly dinners and ALL holiadays with his X and growen kids. and the wedding she paid for and was not allowed to go to because his X and kids didn’t want her their
    so to end this it is WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!!!!!!!! what do you think? I would like to know the good and the bad about having afaire.what you had before and what you gave up for the life you have now is it or was it worth it? thanks

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  6. jp

    Susan I’m so with you, I hope that you are doing well and have all your ducks in order, what goes around comes around in a ten fold. he will get his and you’ll see it.

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  7. susan

    My ex, on for 8 years in my mind, and off more than on in his mind for the last 8 years, refused to add me on as a friend on his facebook account after he signed up. Said that he only created the profile so a close friend of his could send him copies of their camping trip, that I was excluded from. From VERY the FIRST day that my ex opened his facebook account, was the VERY FIRST DAY that I began to SEE CLEARLY, his SNEAKINESS, and OMISSIONS of truth, and I could go on forever. . . painted a VERY CLEAR PICTURE OF WHO HE REALLY WAS. I only wish that Facebook had been around 8 years ago. I would not have subjected myself to all of his BS for this long.

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  8. jb

    Mine did it on a dating site and unbeknown to him he began corresponding to a “new woman” but all the time he was in touch with me. Slagging me off to this “new woman” through dating email. Pages of stuff of no relevance to a new romance. Stupid man. They always think that they can do better than what they have, but like jp says, what goes around, comes around. They end up the losers.

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  9. jp

    Annunciata, you are so right!!! good or BAD!!!!! my soon to be X opened pandora’s box and now understands what he has done what he had is no longer their me, house, money, the dream with the girlfriend is no longer there she don’t want him either so what goes around comes around in a ten fold all he is left with is a bad credit. so if anyone is cheating thinking you are getting away with it HA HA HA your not.
    when you hurt someone it will come back to you, my god give you what you given others.

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