Should You Be Friends With Your Ex?

Should You Be Friends With Your Ex?

To Friend or Not to Friend?

What happens when you see your ex somewhere? Do you run and hide, or do you acknowledge their presence? Do you make an effort to keep in touch? Do you take the hand of friendship offered by the person who was the love of your life just yesterday? These are million-dollar questions!

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Definitely Not a Stranger

An ex-lover is definitely not a stranger that you can simply erase from memory. And it wasn’t all bad, right? There are shared memories, experiences, emotions and time spent together that cannot be simply forgotten. So, should you be friends with your ex?

Two Choices

Some people feel that keeping in contact with an ex opens up past wounds, causes hurt and delays the healing process. Others feel that you should keep in contact with an ex if you can maintain a healthy friendship. Here are my thoughts on both options.

1. Stay Away!
Some people shouldn’t be friends with their exes. If you had a bad breakup or they treated you poorly while you were together, there’s no need to be their friend. But let’s say things were great between you, but you lost the spark or realized you wanted different things in life. What then? If you are the type to reminisce about what used to be, and that makes you depressed, you shouldn’t be friends with an ex. Good memories can be harmful if they keep you from moving on. And if friendship isn’t your real motivation for keeping in contact with an ex, you should also let them go. Don’t hold on to them because you think you can’t find someone better or you’re hoping the friendship will turn into friends with benefits or a full-fledged relationship again. If it didn’t work the first time, chances are it won’t work again.

2. Don’t Let Go!
However, just because the romantic relationship didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean a friendship won’t work out either. You know each other intimately. You know their likes and dislikes. You know what their dreams and aspirations are. That’s a great basis for a friendship, which is really just another form of intimacy. Even if there is no sexual bond, there is still an emotional bond. But it’s best not to jump into a friendship right away. Take the time to grieve and heal before attempting friendship with an ex.

A Healthy Friendship

A healthy friendship can exist between ex-lovers. It’s one where you keep in touch, ask about their well-being and offer help when needed. You can spend time together and celebrate milestones together. You can be supportive of future romantic relationships. This is all very healthy.

Some Challenges

A friendly relationship between ex-partners can turn into a romantic relationship one again if you haven’t set boundaries with each other. Also, it may be hard to justify a friendship with an ex-lover, when you are seeing someone new. It’s easy for a new partner to feel threatened by an old lover who’s still in the picture, so be sensitive to their feelings. If the friendship is truly platonic, it should be obvious.

When you think of your exes, how do you feel? Nostalgic? Sad? Happy they’re out of your life? If you ever feel confused about an ex, call me and we can sort your feelings out together.

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6 thoughts on “Should You Be Friends With Your Ex?

  1. Christine Browne

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  2. Darren ext.: 6458

    This topic is a complex one and can touch on much unresolved
    emotion! When children are involved I know many divorced
    people that feel it’s best to show some semblance of friendship for
    the sake of the children. However, too often an ex partner or ex
    spouse is feeling hurt and is stuck in the “denial & blame game” of what he or
    she “did to them” – the hurting ego of the partner can be that way for
    years to come. Newly divorced people can feel hurt and lonely and
    turn to their former partner for support and “intimate needs” due
    to convenience, familiarity, etc. and end up being a friends with
    benefits relationship with their ex partner or spouse which can
    further complicate feelings and the situation. It’s complex, but I
    know I can help you to understand it better, and if you want to
    look into it on a deeper and more insightful manner
    then give me a call. Regards, Psychic Darren ext: 6458

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  3. Fast Eddie...

    Great article! I think that this article is MORE definitive and more LIFE like than one put on site on Feb. 11,2016. Also, I think it is healthier for people to deal with their feelings now, better than later….

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  4. Mark

    i’ve an ex that left my home i kept it togther untill she stayed at a guys house when suppose to be with me at a wedding , a year later she wanted to come back i kept her at a distance as could’nt trust her eventually after a big row in public at a holiday camp i drew the line all tho she txt and emailed i ignored her she’s now with a new guy who i have no problem with untill he started barging into us quite deliberately its laughable , they have started coming places i am with my friends and new beau my friends have been my friends for 50 years the ex about 8 years and not from my village her guy who is a complete stranger go’s running over to my friends as tho they are his mates and they all think he his strange but he still deliberately barges into me while my back is turned i just laugh because it is so pathetic and yet she contacted me again 2 months ago although i have made it quite clear i’m having nothing to do with her , she tells my friend she’s buying a house on her own moving in on her own doing it up on her own although she was with the new bloke who also moved in with her , every time she saw me with another woman friend she would txt me saying it breaks her heart to see me with my new girl friend , and they were not girl friends lol

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  5. Sharon Schiebel

    the answer is no, and they should burn in a pit for bad mouthing you to your kids with lies. All lies. Brainwashed for 30 years. Burn in (….) you know where your at.

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  6. Sharon Schiebel

    that was pretty right once they leave don’t take them back. There not your friend. And it really helps if they do the big fav for you and DIE>>>>>. Which makes it easy to not get close. LOL HA

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