From Best Friends to Lovers?

Your Everything Person

Do you have a guy friend? Do you do almost everything together? From concerts and sporting events, to dinners, to traveling together, to complaining about your jobs and bad dates, you do it all—except sleep together. Should you? If there’s a man in your life who’s the first person you turn to, maybe he has the potential to be more than just a friend. Maybe you should date him!

Your detailed soulmate reading is waiting! Is this the year you finally meet your true love?

Let’s get one thing straight: I’m not talking about dating your guy friend because you’re lonely, or not married yet or bored. I’m telling you to look at your friendship and your friend with a discerning eye. Are there any romantic feelings there? Do you get the sense he has romantic feelings for you? Ponder these questions and a few more!

Why is He Your Best Friend?

You guys spend so much time together for a reason. Maybe he makes you feel good about yourself. Maybe he really listens to you. Maybe his apartment feels like a safe and welcoming environment that shields you from the harshness of the outside world. If you guys can sit in front the the TV in silence and still have a great time just being in each other’s presence, maybe there’s something more there. If he’s the first person you think of when something good or bad happens in your life, maybe your relationship could be more than a friendship. Maybe you haven’t considered him romantically because he’s right in front of your face! Sometimes an image or a person can be too close to see.

Are You Both Single?

One of the things you bond over is bad dates. He can’t seem to meet anyone great and neither can you. Except, you actually already have—each other! Instead of having bad date after bad date, why not go out with someone you know you’ll have a good time with? If you are both free of any other romantic entanglements, why not consider taking your relationship to the next level. Chances are there is something there that perhaps you are ignoring because real connections are scary. Going on dates that never amount to anything may be disappointing, but putting your heart out there with someone valuable can ultimately be the hardest (and best) choice because it has the ability to change you for the better.

Are You Attracted to Each Other?

C’mon, dig deep. How do you really feel? Why is he the person you go to for everything? Why is he the person you want to see whenever you have free time? If just looking at his face makes you smile, don’t try convincing yourself you don’t find him attractive. Even your friends are secretly taking bets as to when the two of you will finally get together. Stop denying the attraction and consider romance the next time you look into his eyes. Instead of a quick celebratory high five, let your hand linger a little longer. See if you end up holding hands and liking it. It could be the first step toward major romantic progress.

Do You Get Jealous When He Dates Other People?

Do you hate it when he dates other people? Perhaps you feel threatened or a bit possessive when someone new comes into his life—especially when your best friend spends more time with them than you. Now they won’t drop everything just to spend time with you. They may even establish some healthy boundaries so their new partner doesn’t feel like they have to compete with you. I’ve had many close platonic male friends, and I’ve always understood that there will be some distance when they get into a relationship. Their romantic partner is their top priority and you have to understand that. If they’d rather make you a priority than the other person, then they are not with the right person and should be with you!

Are You Afraid of Ruining Your Friendship?

Lastly, if you’re not dating because you don’t want to ruin the friendship, this is never a good reason to deny love. If you’re romantically interested and compatible, then go for it. You won’t be complicating things by becoming a couple, you will be enhancing them! Some of the best romantic relationships started out as friendships. Wouldn’t you like to be one of those relationships?

Never a Cure for Loneliness

Dating your best friend is a serious thing to do, so don’t do it if you don’t have noble intentions. Don’t date them if you’re looking for a casual relationship and are not ready to commit. Don’t do it because you’re feeling lonely. You could end up lonelier without them to call a friend. Don’t date them to keep them from dating someone else. If you truly care for them, you want them to be happy. And lastly, don’t even consider dating them if you realize you don’t feel passion for them.

2 thoughts on “From Best Friends to Lovers?

  1. Justin zeffiro

    I ask every lady I come across why they have this persistent and irrational need to deny those they label or throw into that old box the ‘friend zone’ and everyone reply “oh gosh, coz ewe we are just friends!”
    I tell them politely that this is simply a front that they project to hide one of two things, either they feel that that person is beneath them or not good enough for them to be a prospective life partner or they, like in numerous others have no idea what it is that they truly want. I ask them “Well don’t you want a partner whom is your best friend, someone who understands you, accepts you for whomnyou really are, someone who makes you feel good about yourself and who always has your back when no one else does. Someone who compliments your personality and who is honest, caring and who truly makes you feel like you want to be the best person you can be because they see your qualities even though you or anyone else seems to even care enough to notice.
    Ladies are so preoccupied with this idea and concept that they have in their mind about what their partner needs to be like and attaining it that they are oblivious to the fact that the very person who they enjoy, prefer and tend to spend most of their time with now, is most likely the very type of person that they really want to share their life with because if they weren’t, they would not be spending any time together at the current moment as people rarely tend to maintain proximity to someone who makes them feel insecure, worthless and unworthy… And is definitely not a person any human being would easily and comfortably consider even being a close and/or trusted friend.

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