There’s always a lot of talk about soulmates and there’s a lot of ideas floating around as to what a soulmate is and what it means when we meet our soulmates. The concept of soulmates is one of the trickiest to understand. We are connected to our soulmates through our past lives. I tend to believe that everyone in our lives, friends, mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, lovers, they are all soulmates and they all represent and serve different purposes in our lives.
Soulmates keep encountering one another until whatever it is they need to teach one another has been achieved successfully. Teaching and learning are the keys to unlocking the mystery of what that soul connection is.
When soulmates find one another they carry the baggage of whatever un-learned lessons are left from their past lives. The “final” encounter with one of your soulmates is the sweetest. This is when you can stop the ‘school room banter’ and finally relax with unconditional love for one another.
In Tarot I often think of Six of Cups as representing the ultimate union of soulmates. The Six of Cups is a card of hope – a card of dreams once thought inexplicably lost which are renewed with the realization that those dreams can come true again. It is not a card of overwhelming joy. It is a card of hope. There is a recognition that something has been lost, yet from that loss something has been gained – knowledge and understanding. Most of all it implies forgiving and being forgiven. It is in the forgiving that renewed hope is born. This is when love answers our call.
Where things get tricky is when we’ve decided what that soulmate lesson is before we may have actually learned it. This can be particularly confounding with romantic relationships. We always recognize our soulmates and they recognize us – this is why, when we encounter our soulmates the connection is so undeniable and unexplainably intense. But not all soulmates are meant to be our life partners. Sometimes a soulmate enters our life to teach us lessons about attachment and letting go. Sometimes these soulmates teach us about commitment and holding on.
Remember what I said about being connected to our soulmates through past lives? Who we were and who they were, usually determines what the dynamic of the current relationship will be. In a past life for example you and your sweetie may have been brothers and perhaps the current life lesson is about loyalty and trust. Perhaps you were mother and child in a past life, perhaps the current life lesson is about tenderness and nurturing. Sometimes we’ve learned how to be tender and nurturing yet we may have forgotten how to let ourselves to be nurtured and treated with tenderness. Just as importantly, these life lessons are connected to your learning on a deep and spiritual level that you deserve to be treated with kindness and to be loved. If you ever doubt this then ask yourself, “Is there any human being on earth that doesn’t deserve to be loved?” If the answer is “No” then why would you be an exception to that rule?
This is why the most important lessons that we need to learn or teach through our soulmates are often the thing that hurt or frustrate us the most. Whatever may be causing conflict in the current relationship is usually directly connected to what it is you need to learn from one another. What connecting with our soulmates has to teach us on the deepest level is that we all deserve to be loved and deserve to be allowed to experience the joy of loving without fear and frustration.
The more fervently you believe this; the more diligently you pursue this, without deciding for yourself who this love comes from and where this love is directed, the closer you come to attaining it. It may sound corny but love is the reason for everything. What we have to learn and what we have to teach through connecting with our soulmates, no matter what the circumstance is that all else is rendered meaningless without love.