Sometimes, strong emotions from a previous lifetime spent with another person can dominate a relationship. This was the case for one of my customers who was romantically involved with a man who had been her son (and she his mother) in a previous lifetime. This woman was strongly impacted by the sense of loss of her child in the previous incarnation as well as the feeling of guilt or regret for having somehow failed him.
I saw her belonging to a wealthy and powerful family in Napoleonic France. I watched her clutching the ornate railing of the second floor balcony of their home as soldiers dragged her young teenaged son away forever. This was a crucial trauma for both souls. For both it marked the end of a long series of peaceful lifetimes. Her focus had been dedicated to parenting and family, while her son had had a series of lifetimes of ease and luxury allowing him to develop his natural talents. He was wrongfully accused and convicted of a crime he did not commit and was imprisoned, abused and put to death, beginning a series of traumatic lifetimes.
With a mother’s unerring instinct she watched, aware even then of his long difficult journey ahead. Like parents do, she frantically searched her mind for something she could have done to prevent the situation. She felt that she had failed in some terrible, unforgivable way and that she was no longer worthy of love. She longed to reunite with her son, to soothe and heal his pain.
Whenever we experience a deep longing or emotion our desire is inevitably fulfilled. Sometimes it has to wait lifetimes but it will bring us back into contact with the person we have longed to complete things with. In this lifetime the man who had been her son was pretty badly behaved. He would not allow anyone to get close to him. He was attached to my customer but at the same time was neglectful, emotionally abusive and would not really commit to the relationship.
My customer kept being unconditionally loving, detached and accepting of his behavior. She was not able to let him go because she wanted to heal him. She needed to learn that she could offer him the healing force of her unconditional love, but beyond that it was his responsibility to heal himself. It wasn’t her fault that he was wounded, and he would heal when his time was right. It was important for her to release herself from the judgement that she had failed him. His soul had chosen the past life difficulties to create wounds that would teach him how to heal himself and others. As she innocently got caught up in trying to do his healing for him, she damaged her self-esteem and robbed him of his eventual glory. Her lesson is to set healthy boundaries for herself and others, and to allow her son to come home of his own accord.