Sex Q&A: If You’re Older, Are You Less Sexual?

Just because a woman is older, doesn’t mean she can’t be sexual. Roles change, so do relationships and so does sex. Sexually, she can and should be as active as she wants.

Should Older Women be Less Sexual?

Maryanne from Perth, Australia asks:

I just wanted to ask you why you think older women should be crones and holy women??? We also have a libido and a need to enjoy it. What in the world makes you think we are not as sexually attractive or as appealing as  younger women? Are you saying that all younger women are beautiful?? Also I have seen many younger women get treated like dirt and their age doesn’t change the way a man values them, nor does their breeding capacity. You must be aware that older women were younger once and they remember how men treated them when they were younger. Men are not just animals wanting to breed, or so low and insecure or stupid, that they would think that an inexperienced, younger women could possibly take the place of a sexually active, very experienced, beautiful and intelligent older woman, who is not just good in bed but also interesting conversation.

Liam’s Response:

I find your hostility interesting. Let me make clear that my observation regarding the general male tendency to choose sex partners based on physical perceptions of youth and fertility isn’t an opinion. It is a biological and statistical reality. Long years of study have shown time and again that though men will pair bond with women of their own age group when they are young, as they age they will seek progressively younger women as mates. The preference is illustrated again and again. It is a tenant of evolutionary psychology, and a biological standard. Perceptions of youth and fertility far outweigh any romanticized notions of ‘higher’ intellectual ability or good dinner conversation. Let’s be realistic.

Given the choice, very few men are going to pick even the wittiest and most successful older woman over a bikini-clad co-ed no matter how dim-witted. Now, I know it’s not polite to say these things. It’s not politically correct. But this is nature we’re talking about and there’s a whole lot about nature that isn’t very nice. It’s hideous that little children die of disease every day and we big-brained apes spend so much of our time finding new and better ways of decimating each other in our endless tribal pissing contests. But these things are the facts of our nature and that is our reality. The fact that males prefer progressively younger bed-mates as they age actually seems rather meager by way of comparison. At least to me.

What I find really interesting in all this is your assumption that the archetype of the crone is one devoid of sexuality. I think you’re bringing your own narrow, culturally-biased view of older women into the picture as that is never an opinion I expressed. I have never once suggested that older women should give up on sexuality or that older women are not beautiful or sensual or even downright sexy. The standard of the mature femme fatale is well documented in art and culture. Indeed, the sophisticated seductress often lies at the dark and dangerous heart of the crone. Her realm is a perilous place and her archetype the most sexual of all. For she is Death itself of which the momentary ego-obliteration of orgasm is but a shadow.

Now, she may be dark and she may be dangerous but what this sultry lady is not is a fool. Nor is she a woman-child trying desperately to cling to her youth. An elder (a crone) knows nature’s reality. And she knows how to let go of one station in favor of another. Roles change, so do relationships and so does sex. A crone is self-contained. She knows her path is one of liberation—from social value placement, from male objectification, from game playing and maidenly intrigues. Sexually, she can and should be as active as she wants. But wisdom must prevail in this, not foolish wishes. We live in a culture where men of 60 want to be budding rock stars and women constantly yearn for the days of proms and pep rallies. Personally, I think we should all try growing up a bit.

Liam

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71 thoughts on “Sex Q&A: If You’re Older, Are You Less Sexual?

  1. Alexandra

    WOW…I hate to see you two going at each other personally. I agree wholeheartedly with
    the REALITY that most men…not ALL, as they grow older, do look for younger women for
    more reasons than what Liam gives (biologically), because I know older men that do seek
    women their age (my ex for example), because they do not need to prove anything…most men
    that seek much younger women than themselves for other reason than procreation, seem to
    have this problem. I AM an older woman, and quite sensual and sexy at that (others tell me though I am a bit insecure with my sensuality), but I find that most men that seek me are
    young, and I MEAN YOUNGER than me…I dont feel proud about it, but it is my reality and
    sadness because I would prefer a man closer to my age, but I find that due to my
    personality (Latin), it sometimes scares away some of these “older men”, that are not actually that hung up on having a younger woman, for the same reason. MOST men in the U.S. over 50
    do start having problems with impotence (mostly due to mindset in this society, reason for
    such popularity of sex enhancement drugs), and seek the younger woman believing that will restore their virility. Things are changing in the U.,S. and older, secure women are
    finding younger men being attracted to them…even for the long haul, but we still have a litte ways to go to catch up with some countries, specially Europe in that area. It is in the proof of the pudding.

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  2. wendy

    I actually believe it goes both ways. Older women want a more viril younger mate………ignites the passion of the older woman.

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  3. angela

    whom do you think headed these studies?MEN.In some countries older women date younger men more often than older men date younger women.Even here in North America many older women date younger men.If people dating that far out of their age group is so common why do you rarely see it?After the few minutes of sex are over what on earth would they have to talk about?Older men are just as unattractive as they think older women are.In fact its been proven that most men gain more weight as they age than women.More older men go bald than women.Most men arent going to be able to keep the pace of a younger woman nor would they have the same interests.They will also notice as they age fewer and fewer women are attracted to them even less so are younger women.So whom are all these older men having relationships with?Its also medical fact that an older mans sperm isnt as healthy as a younger mans so why would nature have them producing babies all over the place with younger women when their is younger men for this purpose?

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  4. Jollie

    I happen to be reading this and lol lol lol !!! I happen to agree with you Liam – ONLY – There are younger men that prefers older intelligent woman, and as lovers as well. My hubby is 12 years older than me and we have been married 27 years 2013 and still going strong lol. Yes we were all young lol once, and we also saw how these old men were looking at us and acting like idiots with these young girls (which by the way you wont see older woman doing the same?) And as for these young girls, they only or mostly go with the older men for what they can offer and that is as we all know def not the sex but status, money and material things that can be offered that the young guys cant give them. Yes maybe we ‘as you say’ yearn for the days and ill be honest I do to…… but as Maryanne says men’s value’s always change and I think that is what us woman don’t like about men. Well I am very happy as an older woman (haha or crone) being with a younger man as I said and sometimes he has to try keeping up to me. Glad I read this. Very interesting what men your age thhink ‘at times’ lol !

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  5. Eagle

    Younger women by nature would only be looking at an older man as a provider.But as society has changed a great deal and women make their own money they have no need for a man for providing.I have a son and I meet his female friends and have young female friends of my own.None think dating an older man is appealing.Yes centuries ago we behaved like that and not all studies show that this is still the norm.Perhaps if society didnt perpetuate this mans world fantasy by using scantily clad women in their teens and early twenties to sell everything.if men didnt think that porn, stippers and hookers were good jobs for women cuz they pay great, and it benefits them to think that way.society would change.men have brains and can make choices.they should realize for every young woman they try to bed some other old man is trying to do that to their daughters too,and they all look like idiots.

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  6. s

    So, what you are saying is that the crone becomes the predator, rather than the prey?
    And in effect, the aged, both male and female prey on the youth? No one wants to die – we want to remain youthful and have fun for as long as possible.

    BTW, they need to change the term ‘crone’ to somethng less derogatory!

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  7. Chrissi

    I would agree- but knowing how much the media feeds us a diet of unrealistically thin younger women, who we are all supposed to aspire to be and basically very few older ones, unless they are either stereotyped as sex mad ‘cougars’ or sometimes wise granny types, if we are lucky. We need to do something to change this to teach that older women can be just as good as younger ones- and, if not damaged by circumstance wiser, and loving too, women do not dry up and give up as soon as they are no longer able to have children- some will be even more liberated by the fact that they can’t get pregnant- but thanks to the media, we are just seemingly expected to fade away out of public life

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  8. Cyn

    That men seek younger and younger partners says more about male aging than it does female. The need to maintain a virile alpha status among society is common given our young men are not allowed to beat them down like other animals in nature. That said, I agree that Crone can be sultry, mysterious and even scary to men who do not think they can live up to her now wise and experienced standards. Croning was a huge blessing for me and the power it brought is wonderful. What I find is that while I am as sexual as ever, I am far less tolerant of idiocy and games played to get sex, know exactly what I want and I’m not afraid to say so, and am far choosier in partners aspects other than sex. If they can’t meet my intellect, not for me. If they can’t make me laugh, not for me. If they are needy or demanding more than I am willing to give freely, not for me.

    For myself, I am enjoying this period of my life sexually far more than the child rearing years.

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  9. Tracey

    I’m over 50 and don’t see myself as a crone and I’m not worried about my sexuality, lol…. Most men want a lady on their arms and a whore in bed at the end of the day. When the older ones are chasing the younger ones, it’s usually trying to prove that they can still “win the prize” at the end of the chase. Me, I’ll take a man who’s already sowed his wild oats, had all the kids he wants and they’re grown, and I don’t care how many exs he has….I don’t want somebody else I’ve got to raise or baby~ I’ll take one my age or older but forget the youngsters who’re still wet behind the ears. I’m older and very comfortable with who I am and when the time is right, he’ll come along; I’m not chasing anyone anymore, that was my younger days and I’m grown now.

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  10. expatmom

    I agree that men are usually more attracted to younger women.

    In my case, though, I’m relatively naive when it comes to sex although I’m 53 yo. I’ve only had 2 other sex partners before I met my husband. Maybe it’s the reason why I look younger and have had a few experiences where younger men have “fallen” for me.

    Even though we are mature women we still need to be admired but we also want men with maturity but who haven’t lost their the joie de vivre.

    There’s something to be said about looking young and feeling young.

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  11. Sandy

    I’m 45 and single for a little over a year now after 26 years of marriage. I worried about much of what is discussed in this article, however, what I found is that the world is a big place and the truth is everyone is attracted to different things. It’s much more about how a woman perceives herself and the attitude she projects to the world around her. When you love yourself and treat yourself like your wants and desires matter. What I have found is that men do find that very sexy and will be drawn to you. You’ll probably turn away alot of younger men who are tired of drama queens or the women afraid to claim what they want, which is the way I have been told by many men they view younger women. I’m not saying you’ll want any of these men, however, they do exist. As do the men in your own age group, many of which are divorced, already have kids and are not looking to start another family with a younger woman, but just want to enjoy life with someone of their own age who gets it. The thing is…no matter what you are looking for…it’s out there. You just have to be smart enough to reach for it. Yes, you will experience rejection, thats all a part of life. But you will also experience acceptace and find your place in this world…what you are looking for is out there. The trick is not giving up before you find it.

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  12. sharon

    liam’
    you make very valid points, at 57 i enjoy sex even after menapause! i find the same is true for women of my age i prefer younger men they are curious, willing to learn can laugh in bed which is important willing to please and can have a lot more stiimula, older men take care of bussiness for a while then get distracted or very lazy. then yearn another at least i know when the younger guy, has to move on he will be a better lover and i am fine with that,next!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    sharon

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  13. Rivers ext. 5273Rivers

    While I understand both views of this discussion I think it’s also important to realize as men age and are looking at younger woman it is not so much from the need to procreate on a primal level as when younger, but more of an ego based fear of their own aging (midlife crisis). It depends on what age group your referring to. Mens choice of wmen is not based on primal instincts only, it’s also mental and emotional…and I might add, a conscious choice.

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  14. gr8tfull

    I am 52 years old, divorced and having been married twice through my youth I am as Liam says…finally feeling liberated. I no longer have the sexual restraints I once placed on myself. I am a very sexual woman and prefer younger men at this point in my life. AT THIS POINT in MY Life. They also seem to prefer me …but I try to keep eyes open and take the experience for what it is. I bring no stress of commitment to our time and I think they like what they experience with me as I do with them. We have passion and laughter and satisfaction. Boom. FWB? Maybe…I like to think so. But we dont socialize in the same circles …for the most part. When I was younger I feared the kind of fantasy I now allow myself to live and think and feel very freely. I may not know what I want for the rest of my life, but I do know what I don’t want. Am I always happy, of course not…but that’s the way life can be. I try to stay as positive as possible and find happiness in little things and take the focus off others. I think Liam is correct in that men want younger women and perhaps much more as they get older…as some women want younger men.Its nature to want some of our youth and ego back. And there are the few men and women who may truly live happily ever after with that relationship. A minority I’m sure. But it can happen. Can it not? I believe that not all soul mates come back in the same age group I guess. But all I’m saying is be proud of how far we’ve come as a woman and allow yourself the freedom to live and feel and be as sexual as you feel comfortable being. I surprise myself everyday at what I can think and feel and it is amazing. Without the younger/older equation. It is about being who you really are. It isn’t about who they are.. it truly is about who you are and comfortable in your own skin. Be sexy and older….there is reward in just being you and controlling your own decisions. Be smart, be sexy, be alone, be in a relationship…just finally own your thoughts and feelings. It is a good time to be a woman!

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  15. Leah

    I disagree with the statement that men want to be budding rock stars and women yearn for proms and pep rallies. Some of us actually have grown up and don’t want to go back to the raging hormone days! You are making a generalization and not two people are the same. Do we as a people wonder what it would be like to have sex with someone other than your mate yes but do all of us act on it no. Respect for oneself and your mate play a big role in our decision making. So a question to you why is it then that younger guys like older women. I know the reason cause I have had this discussion with many younger men but I would like to hear your take on it

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  16. Ruby Young

    Good for you Liam!! I thoroughly enjoyed your polite but direct answer to this older woman who fired at you about she as an older woman is so desireable etc. and obviously enjoys sex much…sounds like an older slut! I am 87, 4 ft 10 inches tall and slightly heavy and have always drawn the attentions of men, great men, handsome men, very prominent men, etc and even now at my age I am pursued by much younger men. It is so shocking when this happens that I think to myself, “don’t you see I am much older than you?” I look younger than my age, thank God, and good habits. No drink, no smoking. I was brought up very carefully, and proud that I was 16 and could truly say “never been kissed” although many boys had tried!!! I think that maybe it is that quality of you can see but you cannot easily have that is attractive. I prefer to spend my time and energy leaving something behind when I am gone that is useful and profitable, making life better for my family and others, like the patent I did on my own, Patent No. 5009196…that is the thing that makes me proud even though I am sexually desireable still.

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  17. Cristina

    u r a worthless piece of shite u know! stop putting us beautiful, sexy and adorable older ladies down. with an attitude like yours, it’s no wonder men look down on us. by the way, ur nothing in the looks dept. either! grow up yourself and redeem us beautiful older SEXY women who do have a younger following. yeesh!

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  18. Helen

    Yes, it’s a fact of life that men over 30 – 35 tend to look for women ten, fifteen, twenty, etc. years younger, or even half their age. According to my life-long observations, the main reason is not just good/ young looks.

    First of all, as men age, their sexual performance deteriorates, both quantity- and quality/ duration-wise. Hence, aging guys look for “inspiration” in younger women, hoping that this could be the answer to the issues they start developing.

    But even more importantly, a lot of guys view younger women as a source of self-esteem. Next to a young woman, they look more mature, experienced, and successful. A younger woman, especially if she isn’t very bright and hasn’t achieved much in life, is a lot more likely to look up to an older guy, admire him, and take whatever he says as the Truth with the capital “t”. Few women over 30 do that, right? We have our own experience, knowledge of life, values… In other words, we have been around the block a couple times, thank you very much. Not every older guy can live with that; it just hurts their ego, when we have our own opinions of things.

    Therefore, this whole mating age disbalance is a much more psychological than purely sex-based issue, even though most people, including men, seldom look at it from this perspective.

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  19. Jane

    Interesting! I am a 66 year old woman that can’t seem to date an older man if I tried! The men that are interested and sexual with me are all at least 10 years younger, and one was younger than my son,25 years old..and yes they were loyal, in love and I was the one that broke it off. They were not ugly or fat! Now I’m with a man 5 years my junior for 7 years and he’s not looking at bikini clad girls at all.

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  20. Elizabeth LaDouceur

    Good for you LIam for saying it with such intelligence. I am 57 and I am fairly cmfortable with my aging and of course I want to be with a man who appreciates me as I am and to continue to enjoy sex. I am interested in someone right now who is 7 yrs. younger and he was the one that went after me. He is very handsome, very fit, and financially independent so it isn’t that he can’t get anyone he wants. With him in the pic, I have decided to continue maintaining my sexual appeal rather than enter an ashram as a renunciate.

    This age thing is like the obesity issue. We have to be realistic. It doesn’t mean that it is the best state of being as far as attractiveness but you can work with it considering other factors. I agree that the questioner is very angry and perhaps she should use that anger to realize that she needs to find a man that will love her for who she is and perhaps help matters along by taking care of herself best that she can. We have many options these days, microdermabrators, facial muscle stimulators, infrared lights, surgery, hats, the gym, yoga, proper eating, fresh air, water.

    I have always been one of the most beautiful women around and even now, despite not being in perfect shape, or weight, sags, wrinkles and thinning hair, I don’t look that bad. I feel that as long as I try my best, I can accept those things that are starting to show and so will he. I also have no problem with the reality that younger women are very attractive so he and I can look at them together. I accept whatever.

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  21. gopinathan k

    I am inclined to agree with Liam. Firstly,in this free world of today,nobody
    has any compulsions except for security or social reasons to keep aloof
    from some such activity.Even then they can manage it privately.Although I agree with the author in general,as we age progressively-the physical changeis sure.But the mental make up-ie. the sexual desire-imagination-inspite of maturity in approach-does not change.Hence forgetting about their stature they tend to approach the opposite sex as if they were physically as good as before.But the other gender person-if physically and age of another generation -may not repond in a positive way or co-operate the way this person would have wished, unless of course it is for some other extraneous considerations.

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  22. dian

    In regard to this post concerning the biological programming for men to naturally pursue younger women over older women .. Even tho this is applicable pretty much globally .. There has been and continues to be in the past 2 or 3 decades a trend toward younger men .. 20’s upwards to early 40’s .. Actively seeking older and more mature sexually active women. I am in my early 50’s and for the past 15 years I have been pursued by very attractive and successful men up to 18 years younger than myself. A few have resulted in long term relationships .. The longest lasting 7 yeaRs .. Two of them could have been marriages but the elements for marriage were somehow not right in my mind so I ended the majority of them all. Even still I find this to be applicable in my life personally and also read and see this trend continuing in themedia and in society as a whole ..

    The reasons that many men prefer an older yet still attractive and financially independant woman are usually because she is secure successful experienced and comfortable with her sexuality. As compared to a younger woman who frequently is not so secure.. Frequently requires or desires a committment .. Is not financially able to be or even desire financial freedom and just hasn’t yet experienced enough of life yet to even know what she wants from her relationnships yet. I would suggest that your statements are possibly more accurate concerning a younger man or men that have not been married yet or had families .. Because a huge percentage of men that have already been through the ringer of marriage mortgages children and child support are very much looking for a sexy mature independant older woman rather than a younger needier counterpart simply for the freedom that this arrangement offers and very often these liasions turn into a deeper and very productive long term committment .

    Thank you for listening !

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  23. lisaisbabygirllisaisbabygirl

    Like I said in a post I just tried to share but couldn’t for some reason, This column is weird. I didn’t start having men REALLY attracted to me until I was 37. I am 44 now. I really don’t believe that a males attraction to women has anything to do with youth at all. When I was in my teens, twenties and early thirties I didn’t display very much confidence, therefore men didn’t notice me. In my mid thirties I did a lot of soul searching and realized my worth. I Exuberate confidence now and men are amazingly attracted to that. When I go out now, men are consistently focusing their interest in me, and turning a blind eye to the hotter, younger chicks that are in close proximity. My Fiancé, who is younger than me, says on a regular basis, “Age is just a number”. If you radiate confidence, no matter your age or body type, you radiate beauty. Age has absolutely nothing to do with it.

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  24. lisaisbabygirlLisa

    That’s wierd…I didn’t start getting attention from men until I turned 37. I’m 44 now and I constantly have men choosing me to focus their attention on than younger women in close proximity to them. I think it has to do with the confidence you exuberate. When I was in my teens, twenties, and early thirties I had very little confidence, but when I hit my mid and late thirties I did a lot of soul searching and realized my worth. My confidence shines and men seem to be drawn to that. I really don’t think it has to do with age. My fiance is younger than me and he is constantly saying “Age is just a number”. It doesn’t matter how old you are, or your body type, if you radiate confidence in yourself you radiate beauty.

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  25. RVG

    You are most articulate, yet you take the liberties to over-generalize. Your statements of ‘Natural Facts’ do NOT apply to a huge amont of men. Perhaps many of us have ‘grown up’ and don’t think or believe at all as you say nature idictates.

    It took me over 5 decades to realize that the most incredibly sensual, responsive, participating, satisfying and uninhibited partners.. were most always over 50-55.

    Bless them, and lets hear it for the best sexual partners available … the Crones!!
    RVG

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  26. Hanna

    I find your article interesting. When I was younger I had a very low libido and since the age of 40 my libido increased. I am now 46 and it is at its highest ever. What could be the reason for this change?

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  27. Kelley

    Dear Liam, I usually enjoy reading your answers to ever crazy question out there. But to say older women yearn for the days of prom and prep rallies is way off! It’s very closed minded and you of all people should know that. I am 42 years old and do not yearn for anything in my past as simple as the comment you made. Most older females are not that simple. Some women are just what they are..older fun loving and smart females. Minus the prep rallies and proms. I agree with you on the comment about men will chose a woman of younger healthier status. I also agree that men are programmed to pick those females. It’s something that some women have a hard time understanding. Not me. I get it. Why would a man pick a older woman when he can have a young beautiful woman. But please don’t put all woman in the category as proms and prep rallies. I know there are some out there but not me.

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  28. Barbara

    I am an attractive lady of 66, looking at least 10 years younger and still have sexual feelings -all is functioning the same as ever. I hope to find a permanent partner via a dating site. I havent found my age much of a deterrent and prefer men late 40s- 50s, though with men in their 40s, obviously it’s just an older woman fantasy. I have a few health problems which have meant I’ve put on a bit of weight through not being so active, so not a size 12 anymore but it seems to me that many men actually prefer an older woman. I promised myself in my early 40s that I was not gonna become an old lady, as such. Celebs have the edge because they can afford the nips and tucks…I’ve just got the young looking genes passed down by my maternal grandmother, who only ever used glycerine and rosewater.

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  29. kan kan

    Straight to the point – we may not necessarily like it – but it’s a fact of life and after all is said and done, life is what you make it – whatever your age. I liked this atricle because it was honest and fair – it didn’t take “sides” -it took into account both sides and the conclusion was unbiased.

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  30. Peggy

    Additionally, for the record, I remind my friend that he quite possibly will be attracted once again to someone closer in age or younger as time passes. I can’t imagine that this wont happen as I become more the crone, and more grayed and less agile. I am approaching this time. He says “no” but I’ve been there and seen how men go looking. This never happened to me but it is a reality. I give myself ample time away from him so I will be prepared for this time. I often think of “Harold and Maude”. Such a great film.

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  31. Kinnie

    I have recently divorced my husband of 26 years and found a younger man. In fact we have been together more than a year. He finds me attractive, confident and wonderful. We have a fantastic relationship and knows I am not ready to get married. So, there are men in this world that like older women. The older woman just has to keep an open mind. My man is wonderful, younger and slightly shorter than me but every ounce a man. He is the man I have waited my whole life for, the man I have dreamed of.

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  32. Elizabeth

    Liam — I disagree with your choice to mirror hostility and condescending language back to Maryanne from Perth. It also feels like you were inaccurate in reading her letter. I don’t see where she expressed the “assumption that the archetype of the crone is one devoid of sexuality”. I believe she mentioned the sexuality of older women. That is one example. I believe if you did a close reading of her letter and your response, and/or if you consulted with a wise woman, and/or your guides were truly channeling a higher level of consciousness to you, the conclusion you would draw is that your response is way off base. I also question who at California Psychics would feature this in an email newsletter. Bad choice. While I agree with your account of the biological reality, I do not agree with the tone you use, your choice of language, the assumptions you make about the writer, and ultimately your description of the crone archetype. It is a partial description. I am a 45 year old female and very happy to report that this issue is much more rich and complex that you portrayed. I doubt your analytical abilities, your insights and your psychic ability and am very disappointed in this post.

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  33. Peggy

    BTW, both of us have been without “marriage partners” for quite awhile, by choice. We met as co-workers, and became friends.

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  34. Peggy

    Excellent. All of this. I have a friend/lover much younger than I. Neither of us are fooled. We both have 5 offspring each. He could father more, but does not want to. I love the playfulness and laughter of our relationship. It keeps us both happy and gives us fewer lonely times. I was never beautiful to look at, so I could never depend on that type of beauty. Ours may be the exception. I feel fortunate to have our friendship, as does he. Our playfull loving is a gift. Our friendship is a gift. Thanks Liam for your wise article.

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  35. Sudeepa

    Hi Liam,
    When you say men choose younger women or girls due to their toned body and shape, i understand. But, when you say men choose younger women for fertility, i cannot agree with you. The fact is, in today’s world, men seek out women not to breed (mostly). They seek out women for sex. For sex, beauty and good body matters. But, not fertility.
    Thanks.
    Sudeepa

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  36. Catherine

    I agree with Liam 100%. As a woman in my 50s with a long-term boyfriend the same age, I feel everything Liam says is true. Though I believe my boyfriend loves me, there is no doubt in my mind that he would be sorely tempted, and indeed most likely give in, if an attractive 20-something female wanted to be with him. Does this hurt? Indeed it does, the rare times the thought crosses my mind. If it happens, it will be dreadful, but I am not going to waste my time worrying about something that may never even happen. I love this man and refuse to make myself miserable about something that (as Liam states and I 100% agree with) is part of his biological makeup. And crazy as it sounds, I love him the way he is! If he were different, would I still love him the same? I don’t know and don’t care to find out. My best advice to other older women is go with the flow. We had our time in the sun, now is the time for the young women. Let them enjoy it. We all know how fleeting it is! Life in general is… So get out there, enjoy it while you can, and have some fun! If you do, I have a feeling you will find that this entire topic is not so important anymore.

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  37. Doris

    I enjoyed your article on men choosing younger women over older women.It is well known that old fools often allow themselve to be caught up in a fling with a sweet young thing,trying to prove they still have what it takes.These men are just dreamers. In a short period of time, he finds out that he can’t keep up or isn’t able to preform at all. A young woman doesn’t have time for this,when there is many more out there who are ready to go. Then he’s out on his butt.An older woman can be just as loving and because she is older, has more patiences when he does develope a problem.She also will stand by him while he gets to a doctor and has his problem taken care of. Some younger men choose older women because an older woman usually is more experinced, knows what she wants and doesn’t want to play silly games like younger women frequanty do. Personally I have never had a problem finding a partner, at any age.All women should strive to remain sexy all their lives.It maks them feel moe desirable.

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  38. Maria

    Now that was a smack of reality, however, there are plenty young men on this side of the earth that do want older women, they keep finding me and i have to constantly remind some i am old enough to be their mother lol. But then again, i am blessed enough to look no where near mya age :).

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  39. joe

    live and let live been with younger women who made a lot of sences and some older who made no sencesw but loved them both and would not change a thing it is the memories and the knowlaged we shared and ganged. noone knows it all

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  40. brenda

    Older men do go after younger women but I don’t think it is purely for sexual reasons. Anyone with a brain in their head knows older men are no match long term for a younger woman, sexually. What they are really seeking once the dew is off the relationship is a younger woman who will be their caregiver. In short, older men need to face realty and grow the heck up. Viagra only goes so far. Once the meds come into play the viagra doesn’t look so appetizing anymore. Younger women would do well to stick to younger men, but, then again most younger women are looking for men with money and older men are usually more established in that area. The only problem is they are too cheap at that stage of the game to spend it!

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  41. amy

    DEAR LIAM, I READ WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY, AND IM LEARNING ALOT OF THINGS FROM WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. I ALWAYS ENJOY WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT PEOPLE AND THINGS THANK YOU FOR THE INSIGHTS.

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  42. Elizabeth

    Liam I have to say Maryanne really set you straight. In response to your why males tend to chose younger woman over an older woman. She seem to cover all the Bases and You Mr. Liam have yet to feel the work of Father Time what it does to older men. Let’s just say that at least I can still perform at any age and we/crones older woman are not being stopped because we feel less than but because of our respect and love is to earned not giving freely we grew up. Nothing wrong with my libido just more picky in the men I would consider sharing a relationship with. You see love isn’t all about sex and looks. You have a rude awaken to come. I say this because what older woman don’t need is to have to work harder especial when a man has reached the point were his limb has gotten limp. So for all You men who are thinking with the wrong head think again. I am beautiful, I am attractive. I have the wisdom to know better ,I am a Woman.

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  43. Daci Armstrong

    I totally agree with Liam! I am 74 and still feeling hot! I would be so exstatic if I could run across a man with a sense of humor, loves music, about 10 years younger ( or 15 or 20 even) who enjoys the company of a strong older woman. And forget about sex on the first date. I know my worth and my value and I love that feeling of security. Yes, if you are an older (?) woman and are lonely it’s strictly by choice.

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  44. Elizabeth

    Liam

    Maryanne really set You straight. I love her fluent way of responding to your so called assumption why older women seem like crones to you. She is 100% correct in response to the way you so call reasoning in the way men thinks and their so called needs for Younger woman. Good luck to You in the future the Clock of Father time has his ways of making men less appealing to younger woman and when that time comes for you Mr. Liam see how fast the tables turn and what you can not provide to young nor older women. I Maybe a crone today but I sure can perform let’s say given the chance I want to.

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