Dee from San Diego asks:
Many of the men that I’ve dated have died. I’m confused, why were they put into my life? I’m just in my early forties.
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
Looking at you and who you are at a soul level tells me that many of the men that have passed on were actually more in need of you than you were in need of them. While it may not seem fair, and is certainly likely to make you question yourself or your purpose, please understand and accept that it’s not you. I’m not telling you that to make you feel better (even though I hope it does), I’m telling you that because it’s being presented to me as a truth.
You’re a kind, sensitive, and spiritual energy. Just being you has attracted people (primarily men) to you that are searching souls. While their stay on this plane may be shorter than average, they seem to be intuitively drawn to you. Many of these souls had things they needed to learn or experience, and you gave them what they needed, regardless of how the relationship was developing. Because of the time these men spent with you, no matter how long or short that time was, you impacted their lives and their outlook. Some went on to find happiness with other women, others did not. However, each of them had a better understanding of compassion, values, and a truer sense of belonging because of crossing paths with you. While you may not have loved them all, you did somehow open them to love. In your own way, you’re a healer. It’s a very special kind of gift, even if you wonder from time to time if you’re cursed.
When you ask why these men were put into your life, that question is likely to make you feel very imbalanced, and is a bold illustration of how unfair life can often seem. The real impact is not that they were put into your life, but that you embraced the opportunity to be in their lives.
Not every love or lover that you have had has come to you for healing; there are those whom you’ve embraced that had something to offer you. Some are still here, others are not. What is most impressive about you, and your silent gifts, is that there is a scattering of souls who are still walking the earth because of having known you. That’s pretty impressive.
Don’t be afraid to love because of the potential of loss. Just be you, and continue to love with every fiber of your being. Death is an unavoidable part of life. While you will grow old, you will not grow old alone. When your time comes (and it’s a long ways away), your husband will be holding your hand. He’s a love that is true, devoted to you, and is also one of the souls that you will save.
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