Survive a Confidence Crash

Regain Your Self-Confidence and Self-Love

If you don’t love yourself, it’s impossible to love anyone else. Self-confidence, feeling that you are truly terrific and a very special person, is key to self-love. However, there isn’t a human who hasn’t suffered a flaming crash of confidence at one time or another.

You lose your job. You fail in a project that means the world to you. You and your best friend have a huge falling out. Your love life turns to dust. What do you do when you want to paint a big red “L” for loser on your forehead? Toss the paintbrush, and nurse yourself back to confidence health.

Acknowledge that you feel like day-old manure and wallow in self pity for exactly one day. Go ahead. Get a pint of decadent ice cream and a box of tissues. Spend all of Saturday brooding on how truly pathetic you feel.

Next, put away all that angst, no rehashing permitted. Take a luxurious bath, put on something you absolutely love to sleep in, and get a good night’s rest.

In the morning, gather your thoughts and figure out how the situation went awry. Consider, casually, how to avoid the same pitfalls in the future, but don’t pressure yourself.

Get busy the next day or two doing things you like, especially things that benefit others. In bits and pieces, let your thoughts wander gently to how you feel. Acknowledge the feelings but don’t try to change them.

Set aside mandatory meditation time each day for the time being. Find an overcoming obstacles CD you can love. Use it in your meditation.

Set aside an hour to quietly write a written inventory of your finest points. Be very, very generous. Study the list and choose one or two you’d like to enhance.

“One of the most important things I remind people to do is count their blessings.” – Psychic Quinn ext. 5484

Find a friend you can trust with your deepest secrets and talk this all out. Tell your friend you’re not looking for solutions or for rescue, just someone to listen.

Write or find some affirmations you can tape to your mirror, load into your phone, and commit to memory. Say them every day until you’re back on track.

It boils down to being kind to yourself. Forgive yourself your mistakes—better yet, welcome them and see how they can help you grow. The best way to bounce back when your confidence is flattened is to bless yourself in the light of your value.

Open your eyes and open your heart to bask in the brightness of your self-worth. Give your soul a kiss.

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7 thoughts on “Survive a Confidence Crash

  1. jyoti

    U can motivate urself but wht if u r unhappy with Ur child ,if he is not listening ,everything seems going against you ,u reach to a deadend and u don’t know wht to do now

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  2. chuck

    I like the un opinionated friend part, that seems to be my problem. I have a friend that I am in love with and she will listen but trys to analyze everything I tell her even when I tell her that I love her but doesn’t feel the same way. I have told myself for two years now to move on with my life but she keeps giving me mixed feelings about us. Maybe I am reading too much into this but she wants me around 24/7 and she is involved with another man. Of course her bf dosent want me around but she goes as far as to sneek me in after he’s asleep. I am very confused in our relationship as it gets even more complicated than this. I am very afraid to leave her because I live in a different state completely. When she let’s me out she doesn’t want me to go anywhere and stay so she can see me. I know I should cut my losses but I am so much in love it hurts, I have never been this much in love in my life. I could go on about my feelings for her but it wont do any good. What should I do is the final question.

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  3. samsul haque

    HI.
    HOW ARE YOU.IAM SURE.I LIKE HIM BUT I LOVE HIM.I FALING YOUR MOMENT.BUT SURE. YOU THING MY COUNTREY BANGLADESH EMBASSE POSASING LONG TIME UNDESTEND.SALF CONFIDENCE AND SALF LOVE NOT.MY CONFIDANCE AND PATH ALL TIME NEED YOUR OPEN.BUT I LIKE YOU AND MY SPECIAL PARSON WOMEN MY NEED A JOB VERY VERY IMPOTANT MY LOSE A JOB .YOUR FAIL IN A PROJCT THAT NO MUCH HAPPEN. WHERE THERE IS WILL THERE IS THE WAY.YOU GIVE ME RESPONS AND INVATION LATTER. YOUR INVATION EMBASSY[U. S] TURES VISA NOT ALOW UNDESTEND.
    THANYOU.
    GOD BALES YOU.

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  4. -quinn ext.5484

    >>>Find a friend you can trust with your deepest secrets and talk this all out. Tell your friend you’re not looking for solutions or for rescue, just someone to listen.<<<

    wonderful point. if you find a person like this, just willing to listen, let me know who they are, :) thats the kind of friend that makes friends so valuable.
    applauding all the unconditional friendships – no judgement, no advice, no rescue, no solutions…
    just two ears and a big hug.

    with metta,
    -quinn ext. 5484

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  5. Mark Taylor UK

    Good article, we all tire of the constant set backs, hiccups, and sadness, BUT we must move forward, if we wallow in why me and pity we will attract more negativity, lets face it we all love a hero right? we all want to see thae good guys win against adversity right? Well in this case you are the hero, this is your movie! make the change, keep positive and soldier on! BUT alow time to grieve just a weeny bit, then wham! fight it one action, one motion, one day at a time!

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