I like to believe that we’re masters of our own destiny, ultimately responsible for every decision we make in life. I don’t think there’s really such a thing as a victim, or that our stories are pre-determined. What it comes down to is that there are two types of people: those who wait for their “future” to happen to them, and those who make their “future” happen for them.
Our upbringings affect our decision making skills and shape who we are, but at the same time, it’s our decisions that dictate how we live and where we end up. Life is truly a huge web of decisions and opportunities. People that allow their past and upbringing to dictate their life are people who are always waiting around for things to happen to them, and who end up missing opportunity after opportunity. People that go out and make their own outcomes are dynamic, constantly changing and adapting to a growing society. While one could argue that this is due to a strong upbringing, it is also due to a choice – the choice to not settle for anything less than fulfilling their goals and being happy.
We can all be what we want to be, do what we want to do and achieve happiness. Being happy is the most important goal in life. As we grow and navigate the bumpy roller-coaster called life, we find that what ultimately makes us happy is often something we didn’t see at the beginning. Happiness is realizing what our purpose is, and what we want to contribute to society and the universe. The best contribution we can make is doing what we’re passionate about, because that’s something organic, something that will inspire others and make them happy.
We live in an imperfect world, and some get better starts than others – but where we ultimately end up is up to us. Letting anything dictate our life is a detriment to us, and succumbing to these pressures only hinders us and puts self-created obstacles on our path. We can’t change where we come from, but we can always change our path and where we end up.
What do you think – do we make our paths, or are they given to us?