It was the 4th of July weekend. There I was, cruising down the interstate. The speed limit was 70, and that was what I kept myself to. Not that I’m perfect, but that ticket I got years ago for $100+, and the traffic school assignment, pretty well keeps me in line. Plus, all those state cruisers efficiently picking off the speeders was a great inspiration for discretion.
Apparently most of the people around me on the road felt about the same way. However, my problem is that when the law tells me I can do 70, I want to do 70 (except in poor road conditions). I guess I’m just a push-it-to-the-limit type of person. But the people around me, beside me, in front of me were all doing 65-68. This kept on for mile after mile until I wanted to scream with frustration. The guy in front was oblivious (obviously never having seen highway signs that say “Slower Traffic Keep to the Right.” I felt totally boxed in.
How often does there seem to be someone or something blocking our way? It doesn’t make sense to us, so we are frustrated practically beyond our ability to bear. We want to do something, anything, to make conditions change. Should we just hang on to what is occurring, or should we do something drastic? If so, what?
People call us at California Psychics who feel absolutely stuck in their lives, whether it be with their jobs (or lack of a job), their marriages, their relationships, their level of communication with their parents, or others. They feel they cannot move ahead, sideways or any other direction at all. They are glued into place. They want assurance that there will be a positive change in the future.
Well, of course, there will always be change. Absolutely nothing stays the same in this world forever. But whether or not it will be positive change is something else we worry about. There are certain things we can do to influence the outcome of particular situations in our lives. And then, if we fail to influence these situations in the direction we want, we still have options.
A person who calls me for a reading gets this information – if you do this, this is what I see will happen. If you take the other option, this is what I see happening. If nothing is done, then there will be yet another outcome. Most people want to know what will occur when they feel that circumstances surrounding them are uncontrollable. For example, when will they get a job? When will their husband or wife stop cheating on them? When will their mother-in-law act like a civilized person? What will occur in the future when they feel that they have no options to exercise in the present (much like my being boxed in by slow drivers)!
The thing is, we always have options. While we cannot control all aspects of a situation, there is a lot we can do to influence the outcome. I had a caller who asked when he was going to get a job, as he was unemployed. I was somewhat puzzled, as I couldn’t see that the person had filled out any employment applications. When I indicated this to him, he said that he had not! This was one way he was influencing the outcome of his job hunt!
In many cases, to open the door to receive, we first have to ask. This holds true in many situations, whether it be employment or something else. For fidelity, one must expect (ask) and if that expectation is not met, then there remains the choice of staying in or leaving the relationship. For a good relationship with an in-law, one can choose to foster harmonious feelings. If this proves to be too difficult, then one may choose to have the least contact possible. Even while we are frustrated that things are not turning out the way we wanted, we still have choices, if not the ones we particularly would like. Sometimes the choice may be that we can only dictate the way we mentally handle the situation, until it has passed.
In my case, I chose to stay in the spot I was in until eventually I could do the speed that I wanted. If I had chosen to feel more patience, I could have eliminated the frustration that I felt by realizing that this did not even figure as a tiny blip in my life. I could have taken the opportunity at a slower speed and dropped back to appreciate the scenery that passed by. Or I could have pondered on what is truly important in life that warrants a lot of feeling.
What would you have done?