Judging other people’s life choices is not ok. Yep, you heard me. At every corner of life we are bombarded with people, situations, and events that naturally elicit feelings and thoughts of judgment—if we give into it. Simply stated, someone else’s choices, actions, and lifestyles are NOT our concern. We are not perfect beings—we are here to learn, grow, and evolve. This means we sometimes do things that go against society’s moral fiber, and is, in my opinion, nothing more than a perception we can choose to accept or reject. Now, I’m not speaking of crimes against humanity such as rape and murder. I’m talking about every day life.
Wasting time and energy judging someone else, where they are in their lives, choices they’ve made and the like, lowers our own energetic vibration, creates resistance, and actually drags us into someone else’s karma. Plus, when we are busy judging other people instead of remaining neutral and supportive, we are not honoring ourselves or those we are judging. Our higher power, call it God, Buddha, Christ, or enlightenment, is not vengeful, but loving. We create our own consequences, which we have to answer to personally … at some point down the line.
When I receive calls about relationship issues from someone who needs help regarding love triangles within a marriage, I far too frequently hear that the caller has come to me because they’ve been rejected by others. This breaks my heart … people don’t create these painful situations intentionally and more often than not, they need much more support than ever to find a resolution. As human beings out of touch with our divine spiritual essence, through our weaknesses we get drawn and stuck in less than ideal situations. This is because we haven’t yet discovered our personal power.
Jesus did not judge others. Neither did the Buddha. They showed love and healing for all. This is what being a human is all about– unconditional love. In a society that claims the majority of its participants refer to themselves as Christians, I would personally like to see a higher level of acceptance and understanding for our fellow humans. You’ve heard the expression “If you give a man a fish you feed him for a day, but if you teach him how to fish you feed him for a lifetime”… in this case we’re not criticizing the man for not knowing how to fish and refusing to help, instead we are teaching through example.
We are not here to judge each other — we’re here to help each other by setting loving examples. As a group collective, we can create more harmony and balance on both the large scale and the small by practicing acceptance, tolerance, love, understanding, and support. When we respond negatively to others without intending to, we are feeding their negative cycle as well as becoming enmeshed in it, inevitably creating our own. Love, support, and understanding, is a much more powerful teacher than judgment or condemnation will ever be.