Let Go of Holiday Guilt!
It is said that as our soul enters each new lifetime, we choose a new body and new experiences to enter into in order to achieve soul growth. We are also told that our soul chooses the family we will be born into. So every November, as Thanksgiving rolls around, why do we second-guess this? Why do we struggle with difficult relationships and holiday guilt?
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We are under an assumption that our biological ties are supposed to come with loving, supportive relationships to carry us through life. And we are inundated during this time of year with images, movies and stories of the big Norman Rockwell-esque happy families around the Thanksgiving table. But for many, that is not the case. Instead, there may have been abuse—mental, physical, emotional or all. There may have been estrangement through divorce, criminal involvement or any myriad of things to break down the family unit. Yet, every year during the holidays, we are told to buy a turkey and make merry. But not everyone can, and for those who don’t want to or can’t, they should be able to do so without feeling guilt. They should be allowed to break the ties that bind.
There is no set time of year that should force you to tolerate unacceptable treatment just because someone is related to you. But somehow, as the holiday season approaches, we are asked to. We do not have the power to fix anyone, but we do have the power to fix our associations with others. Sometimes it’s more reasonable to be safe than to be in contact with a family member. Sometimes willful estrangement is a necessary step we must take to protect ourselves. Yes, that goes outside of the standard message of the season, but just as one size does not fit all, neither does one practice fit all.
Karma and Stopping the Cycle
We are all familiar with Karma: Every action generates a force of energy that returns to us in kind, or what we sow is what we reap. Instead of thinking our Karma is to put up with dysfunction, maybe our Karma is actually that we allow ourselves to move away from the dysfunction? Maybe the lesson is to not propagate the pain, but rather to stop that cycle and create a new family life plan—without the guilt this holiday season and beyond.
A Choice That Liberates You
You don’t need anyone’s approval to be happy in this lifetime. Remember, all of our interactions with others help create our future. So, if you choose to break the ties that bind by not participating in what feels like a forced interaction, or not participating in the way you have in the past, you can find a way to create a new tradition for yourself. Take a much-needed vacation away from the family holiday season, or stay home and start your own Thanksgiving tradition without the guilt. Surround yourself with people, places and things that are good for your soul.
If you choose to break those ties permanently for this lifetime, know that if that choice liberates you, maybe that was also part of your soul’s path. Not sure if you should break the ties that bind? Ask yourself, if the person who treated or continues to treat you badly wasn’t your family, would you continue to have anything to do with them? If not, then you can get closure and release the guilt, and can set your sights on attracting people who can connect with us at the level we know will continue to enrich our soul’s path.
Allow Yourself to Have More Control
This year, allow yourself to have more control over your own life path. Remember that any attempt you make to control other people actually only puts you under their control. Give thanks this year for all the good you have created in your own life (in the little and big things) and allow yourself to leave behind that which does not allow you to continue the progress of your soul’s purpose in this life—without the holiday guilt.
Accomplish Your Greater Purpose
All families have issues and conflicts, and some are worse than others. The pathway for the healing and transformation of our Karma is not just about our DNA-linked relationships, and being part of the same family is just a small part of our relationship with our soul. Carrying guilt weighs us and our souls down. Carrying guilt for presumed responsibility to fit into a stereotyped “happy family” situation does not allow you to accomplish your greater purpose on earth. And everyone has a purpose. Everyone. Don’t allow anyone to stifle yours.
Psychic Donna ext. 9448