Understanding Where You’ve Been and Where You’re Going
OK… you’ve done your homework. You’ve read the self-help books. You’ve driven your dear friends half mad rehashing the stories of times gone by. You’ve stopped stalking through Facebook. You’ve even met someone wonderful (and cute and sexy, etc.) who thinks you are the greatest thing since bread and butter pickles. And then you see the ex in person… after all this time!
Depending on the amount of time that has passed and depending on the last words exchanged between you two, the encounter can be bittersweet or genuinely disturbing. Either way, you have to find a way to file it under “weird stuff” and be able to move on so it does not affect your new relationship or any other part of your life.
When this moment happens, direct your energy in a mature and genuinely caring manner. After all, at one time, you really loved this person. Let that be the fall back position. If the former object of your affection comes from their fall back position of immaturity and temper tantrums, you can rest assured that they have yet to fully release the love they had for you. There is a certain comfort in knowing that all by itself! Know that all the love, work and sacrifice you made while you were with your (now) ex has haunted them and, frankly, no amount of “spin” can change the reality of your past together. In other words: neither of you were all bad!
There are many exes who have been able to be cautious friends, but there are far more who are last seen going over the horizon screaming obscenities. In a perfect world, love would triumph. In a perfect world, even when the circumstances had changed to such a point that lovers were lost along the way and now their time together was through, they would still focus on the love and wish one another the very best in the future. As you know, this world is far from perfect! What happens if you see your ex with the new lover… especially when you have yet to make such a connection? You take a deep breath and smile. Introduce yourself if you are feeling particularly strong. Remember: There was a time when YOU were the apple of your ex’s eye and almost everything comes to an end sooner or later. You might very well be looking into the eyes of the “future ex-girl/boyfriend”!
Consider this, gentle reader: Your relationship did not fail. It had an expiration date. When the goal was achieved (as it had been decided between you two from even before your birth), it was time to move on. When asked, the great anthropologist Margaret Mead had this to say to the reporter who asked how she felt about her two “failed” marriages: “My marriages did not fail. They did exactly what they needed to do for the time in which they were needed. They were quite successful at that!” Wise words, to be sure.
As time goes on, exes fade away. The memories connected to them can either be a source of delight or a source of sorrow. The choice is yours. However, if you come from a place of compassion and maturity (no matter how difficult that may be!) you will walk away from the encounter with more closure and more satisfaction than you could ever imagine.
Call your trusted psychic and see for yourself the impact such a stand can make. You can look directly into the heart of the matter and see that love is the one thing strong enough to never completely die. It, like energy, cannot be destroyed… it can only change forms. If you have not already met your new love, find out when to anticipate their arrival and let all your wonderful qualities (that made your ex fall in love with you in the first place) rise to greet the new day. You are truly loved!