Why does society make it appear that being single is so much fun during our teens and 20s, but if you are still single (or suddenly become single) in your 30s and 40s, it’s awful? Let’s instead focus on the positive aspects of being single, so that those who are — for whatever reason — can enjoy this wonderful time in their lives.
First, being single is not a negative thing — no matter what age a person happens to be. Interestingly enough, I have really noticed a lot of my callers that are single in their 30s and 40s put themselves down, feel stuck, think the worst will happen, and believe, “all the good ones are taken.”
Surprisingly, it’s is not just women that are reporting this self-inflicted, preconceived notion … a lot of men are saying the same thing!
There are so many different reasons why a person is or becomes single. So, just because a situation has put a person into the ‘single’ status, does not mean that a person is a ‘reject.’ On a spiritual and psychological level, if one perceives their status as such, it can really mess with their belief system and self-esteem.
No matter what age a person is, being single should be embraced as an opportunity. Honestly, just think of some of the movie stars that are suddenly single. Do you think Jennifer Aniston is a reject? There are millions of men around the globe who would love to have Jennifer Aniston by their side. What about Liam Neeson? It’s not his fault that he tragically lost his wife. Both of these celebrities became suddenly single! Two highly desired public figures.
Using Jennifer Aniston and Liam Neeson as examples, there are many reasons why wonderful and desired people become single. Here are some examples of potential reasons why ‘good ones’ are are currently available/suddenly single:Their partner was unfaithfulTheir partner changed into a totally different person and the situation became unlivable.A tragedy occurred in which one becomes a widow/widower.Being with someone for the wrong reasons and realizing it.Partner was an addict.Partner was a liar.Tired of being just a “meal ticket.”Partner is always depressed.
Some of the greatest love stories that have been reported to me happened in their late 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 70s! Please realize that being suddenly single is a total opportunity, and gives a person a chance to explore the journey of destined love. At this point in a person’s life, the best thing to do is not to settle and take the first available mate. Truthfully, the best is yet to come, and if single people realized that, there would be a lot more happy single people out there. Change that little ‘chip’ in the mind and reprogram this information, as the best is really yet to come. It all starts in a person’s mindset. In other words, a person has the choice to either see it as an opportunity, or to have a poor self-image.
Accept the present conditions as they are — don’t resist them. The Universe will show you signs as to whether or not you are on the right track. And for those of you who would like to get back together with an ex, it’s ok to have the dream, and sometimes another chance to get back together can really happen. But don’t punish yourself until that reconciliation happens. However, do appreciate those who are in your life, such as your family, friends, and special friends at work. A person can still have fun no matter what you are waiting for. Life is too short.
Finally, there is a reason the Universe and God want you to be single right now. Don’t fight it — embrace it. Live and know that things will eventually change. Please know that you are not alone, but you still have your life, so live and let live! Embrace change and know that there are many wonderful people out there!